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writes:I have a lover who lives in another town but works long hours, when we dont see each other we do email each other every night,and this can go on all evening.Anyway we were meant to meet up this friday but couldn't because he had to cover someone from work, anyway he hasn't been in a good mood since and hasn't emailed me at all for 3 days although he has sent me a few texts each day but i feel he has been shutting me out...i asked him not too but he said he didn't want to be sitting at his pc emailing me because he was too tired. I have felt hurt with what he has said, have i taken it the wrong way? I know he works hard but am i over reacting...im so upset with his remark.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, i did feel neglected.I sent him an email last night saying that he was cold towards me when all i was offering was a friendly ear and that i didn't need this treatment.So i told him it was over...he mailed me back saying that i didn't know the half of it and said bye.mEN, THEY ARE THE COMPLICATED CREATURES.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): Some of these threads are educational for me. I had no idea how many ways there are to offend a woman.Don't take what he does as criticism. I don't think he means anything bad with it, he's just overworked.As far as not mailing, but doing other stuff goes... I always spend a lot of time thinking through mails to people, because I know I have to be focused or chances are high I'll do something to offend them.Sometimes I can't focus enough, or don't have enough time, to write a careful mail, and then I'd rather not write at all, because if I do I *know* I'll do something wrong.I don't get how you can be 'taken for granted' when your support isn't accepted. I understand that you could feel neglected or not appreciated though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replys....he said he didn't want to be on his pc because he didn't fancy emailing,yet he had time to change his facebook photo,which wasn't there the day before...but he took the time to change it last night.I will sit back and wait,just dont like being taken for granted when i wanted to offer him support, thats all.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (28 April 2010):
 I remember a time before e-mailing and texting. You'd see your boyfriend on a saturday, he'd maybe call you by phone on a wednesday and you'd get all excited for the weekend when you'd see eachother again. God I long for those days. There just wasn't the need for daily minute to minute on going contact...you just genuinely missed eachother and there used to be a saying 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'...and it was true. Not having constant updates and displays of 'text love' didn't stop people falling in love and getting married. The world still turned.
Technology has changed but people have not...women are still flighty and emotional...and men are still dinosaurs who DO in fact get really tired and need a bit of space 'In their cave'.
Give him space, quit being so 'on his tail' and take a huge Chill out!!! Your upset for a silly reason and pushing it will push him away.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 He still text message you so don't be to upset he might just be tired. If he didn't want anything to do with you he wouldn't want to e-mail you or text you, but he does text you. I would think he is genuinely tired and stop taking it the wrong way.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 April 2010):
If he is working long hours, then it may well be that is is genuinely tired. Of course you're hurt, and he needs to understand that. But right now, go with the flow and see what happens. Sometimes men just need a little space to get themselves into gear again.
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