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female
age
36-40,
*herubic
writes:I have a guy friend/aquaintance who I have always really liked and had a crush on. I go to college away from home so I dont see him that much but when im home we hang out. Then he called me just to talk and that is kind of unusual for him. One night I texted him while I was drunk all I said was "whats up" but he turned conversation turned into a sexual texting convo and then he called me talked to me on the phone for almost 2 hours at like 2am..kind of about naughty things :). For the rest of the week he randomly texted me just to say hi. When I came home from school we hung but it was with a group of people so we didnt really get to do anything but he whisperered to me "im really into you" and kind of flirted. Then the next night I hung out again and he was texting another girl and I was kind of annoyed because I didn't want him to be "dirty" texting other people and me too...I was so confused about his hot/cold vibes that I called him the next night and flat out asked him if he likes me or not. He said there has always been a "thing" or "sexual tension" as he put it but he didnt want a relationship or anything. I get that, but now he has a new girlfriend and it is only a few weeks later. Why would he initiate this stuff with me and then turn away? Did I scare him off by asking him?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 It sounds like he was just after you for the possibility of sex.
You didn't scare him off, just found out what he was really after.
That he now got a gf doesn't mean a thing, he didn't want a relationship with you because he did not have romantic feelings for you, just lust.
Perhaps not the nicest thing to hear but at least you found out before you got in over your head.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 i think because as he said a thing or sexual tension with you that he was using it to his advantage.so when things fell in place with him and his new gf. ide say he was stringing you along till he got what he wanted. so in all sense your better off without him. so no you ddnt scare him off..if anything he was using you..sorry thats my opinion aphexy
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