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writes:In my previous post I talked about how disasterous my first conversation with my ex was after being in no contact for over 3 weeks even thought it's been a month and a half since the breakup and 4 weeks since the NC period since I had put her off for a week. I needed time to think but she was really eager to talk so Friday night we did but as I've mentioned in my previous post it was very awkward and dull and disappointing possibly due to the fact that it was out of expectation.However one thing I really regret that I said during our conversation that I wish I hadn't have said.During the conversation she talked about how she was surprised to see how I was the one who had a easier time blocking her off and she was the one having a hard time being away from me.She broke things off with me but then later came back professing how much she misses me. Pretty much she just assumed I'd freak out and write/call her constantly and she would be the one blocking me out. When she asked this I just responded by saying "well it's not like I could have done anything about it, you left me so I can't let it get to my head since I'll have to be living this way regardless" She then responded by saying "yes that's right."At the time I felt as if it were the right thing to say but now looking back I feel like I was admitting that the reason I'm not eager to talk to her as much as she is, is cause I have no other choice and that feels like I've given her all the power rather than making it seem like it's my choice to be this way and not that I'm just stuck in this position. This is really starting to worry me. Did I say the wrong thing? Or is it really something to not worry over?I know it's in the past now and it's been said, but I'm hoping it's not something to really stress over about. Prior to our conversation last night she seemed so desperate to talk to me but today she hasn't said a word. I hope I hadn't messed up.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (26 April 2010):
 What you told her was the truth. It was the logical explanation and was 100% right.
Unfortunately, that's not what she wanted to hear. Sometimes girls don't need the truth, the want to see how much you want them, miss them, and need them.
For the record, I would have done the same thing in your position, but that doesn't mean it would have been the RIGHT thing. ;-)
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