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female
age
36-40,
*rystaldecay
writes:Hi all,So my gf of a year cheated on me. At first, she broke up with me saying she didn't love me anymore and I could get better than her. I was confused, I knew she loved me..I couldn't understand what she was saying. So I asked her if there was someone else? No. Did she ever cheat on me? Yes. At first, she said she only made out with someone while I was on vacation. Then, I found out a few days later that she had slept with that other person. I am shattered. She said she feels like shit and wants things to work out and that she can change. I told her words are meaningless and I need action and a lot of effort from her to actually believe her. We're on a break in a way. I told her I can go on dates (I really feel like I need a rebound to make me feel better about the situation - is that wrong?) but she should try to help herself out and prove to me she can change. I love her so much, did I say the right things to her and did I seem strong? I don't want her to think it's ok and I'll take her back just like that. What to do? I'm confused and shattered. (I'm sorry this is long, please read)
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (11 November 2008):
I think the whole "I can date and get revenge sex" thing is a mistake.
If you are going to forgive her then take time by all means but don;t leave her hanging with "you have to prove you can change and at the same time I'm going to be just as bad as you." If you do that then why should she have to change?
If you think you can't forgive her then break up. You can both date for a while and then if you both still have feelings then maybe you can start again.
Good Luck!! xx
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