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writes:Me and this guy we been talking, getting to know each other. He's been talking about being friends with benefits so here I am trying to get to know him before I do have sex with him and I don't plan to give it up like that. We talk on the phone every day. I sent him some freaky messages about how I want him to f*** then when we were hanging out he thought I was gonna do it with him right away. I mean I was talking about the future, referring to sex. Now on our second date, (you can call it that), he was kinda mad at me, he told me I led him wrong and am playing games. What the hell? Did I really lead him wrong? Now I feel bad and just want to do it him because I think am wrong? He made me feel bad, my friends said not to talk to him anymore but I want to because I am lonely but am not a lonely whore and I am not gonna drop my panties to him. What do I do here??? I want some guy opinions, did I really lead him wrong with those messages? (Guy point of view)
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (9 October 2008):
 If you tell him you want to f***, seems pretty normal to me that he would think that you wanted to f***. That's like telling someone, "I'd like some pizza" and then when they give you some pizza, you say "I don't want this! I was talking about next year!" If you want a friend with benefits, the point about that is that there isn't any real relationship besides the sex. It doesn't sound as if that's what you're really looking for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): In other words, what Your saying is, You don't mean what you Say... and whenever you tell him something, he won't believe it. If you don't have trust, you don't have a relationship.Call me old fashioned, but Friends with Benefits is basically free prostitution. You know, you're worth so much more than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): You sent him a freaky text? of cource he'll thought the next time you meet, you'll be having sex! It's your fault for coming on too strong in the first place. Anyway, if you want a freind with benfits, why wait around? Not like you two will ever be in a serious relationship.
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reader, Boredatwork  +, writes (9 October 2008):
 "He's been talking about being friends with benefits"
IS this really what you are after? Usually in this kind of situation someone will end up getting hurt... I.E one person will develope feelings for the other (not trying to be sexist here, but usually the girl). Would you be better off finding "Mr Right" instead of this guy whos after just a bit of fun?
But yes you were leading him on with the messages. Sorry to have to agree with him one that.
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