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writes:HelloMy name is Astrid and I'm 29, This year I have been working and studying to sit national teaching exams, I met a guy who was interesting to me and we went to dinner a couple of times. I was very stressed studying so I didn't go out very much. He said it was ok to date to meet and go slow as he had been on a relationship for 10 years and didn't want to hurry. In fact he went back on many appointments arguing work and it seemed ok as I had lots of work and studying but last time we meet for dinner her asked me for sex in case I wanted to be his girlfriend and I rejected as we had met for 6 dates on a year and I really didn't know many things about him but that he worked on local TV station. When I went to exams he used to phone and care very much so I dedided to have a relationship when back in town after exams, but he said he was not interested anymore. I have the feeling that it's my fault for studying so much and that I always ruin my possible relationships, maybe it's stress, now I'm on holidays and tempted to phone but I know I should move to next blokeAny advice would be welcomedlove Astrid
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 July 2006):
 STTTTTooooppppp...you have done nothing wrong! Your career is clearly important to you and you honestly shouldn't have dropped anything and everything for this guy as being independent is attractive to some men. If you were to have a long-term relationship with him then he would have to come to accept that you have a professional life and don't centre your attention around him. He had just come out of a relationship and was probably looking for some comfort and sex. You knocked back his sexual advances and so he moved on. He already cancelled many of your dates and seemed to be saying if you want to be my girlfriend you have to sleep with me. Don't settle for someone who sets up such conditional rules and then tells you that he is no longer interested. There is someone out there who will treat you nicely and not pressure you into sex while you are stressed out. Anyone with such a lovely name as 'Astrid' deserves a gentleman!
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