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writes:ok, so ive been in what i think to be love with this girl for a few years now. weve been good freinds during, so a few months back, i completly open up to her but she says were just friends, i take it but i still loved her but kept quite. so a month after she tell me she likes me, we agree to take it slowly and go with the flow but im not to tell nyone she likes me( i thought she was embarased about me so i was already uncomfortable),so were at this party getting on fine and i tell her best friend about it but she over heard us,i apologised,but a few days after she spends the night talking to this other boys for lieterraly about 4 hours in a party, and rubs it in my face, and she says to me lets just be friends, so the next day after a long night of no sleep i ask her, how come you just wana be friends? she says because a relationship is built on trust, and you told cant be trusted, so i apolopgised, but she just shruged me off,surely she could have forgiven me for that? and told everyone she like this other guy from the pary. knowing how much it would hurt me. so i gues im asking did she just play me or did i badly mess up and do you think she would ever give me another chance?
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 Hi, This lady that you care about is very interested in controlling things, and she does not want anyone trying to have it their way. If you are into being controlled, then
carry on with your pursuit. If you would want a relationship, where there is mutual respect and care about the other person, I suggest you look for a person who is not into controlling everything. You should know that sometimes love is not enough, love can make you sick, especially when you care more for the person than they care for you. If you can, put your affection in a box, tie it up and put it away, as my feeling is if you go after this woman, you are going to be hurt, first she is into punishment and not forgiving because you did something against her wishes. Leave her alone, find a person who is a bit more forgiving. You may not realize it, but you will not be happy with how she would want a relationship to go.
Take a good look at the situation, and try to be objective, I know it is hard, when you care about someone, but try to be realistic. Take care and stay in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): I really think she is playing games with u & is using the whole "a relationship is built on trust"
Thing to get away out of it
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