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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:How do you politely refuse "hanging out" with someone who obviously wants to spend time with you for networking, or to otherwise further their personal goals? I'm an artist and there is a young male in the same field who has asked me to hang out to "compare notes." There has been an ongoing thing like this between us, where he obviously wants to spend some "quality time" with me, and I'm just not interested. This is the first time he's made a point to ask me to hang out, though. I know it's not a big deal, but I just don't want to hang out with him. He's the guy who has hundreds of friends, and he's always trying to "get his name out there," but I just like to do my own thing, don't push my name on people, and am not aggressive about networking. Networking, for me, just means that you're spending time with people not because you like them, but because they might be able to do something for you, and personally, I'd rather spend time with people who are truly my friends, and who like me for me, and not just what I can do for them. So what do I say to this guy? Or should I just say, "Yeah, sure, let's hang out," and then just don't do it, like so many people do? I've never done that before, and it's always so frustrating when people do that, but now I'm thinking that might be the only way with this guy. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): Just say "NO"
Easyest,quickest most Easley understood way of saying no =)
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