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age
36-40,
*elsiwe
writes:he is single,hes a close family friend and he gave me his house spare keys,so that i can help him,by cleaning and washing when i'm free,cause he cant do it him self.we stay at the same street and i go to his house at any time.last week we had unprotected sex 4 the whole night and we didn't plan it,we just kissed and had sex.when i went 2 his house 2 clean,i found him and i was soo embarast about what happened.we were talking about every thing and he was relaxed and friendly,but he didn't say anything about the day we had sex.guys i want 2 know if,he likes me,ashamed of what happened,still thinking or just shy.what must i do,cause this is eating me.i cant tell any one,cause it happened ones and we never talked about being in a relationship.i'm also single and he knows that.pls help me guys and pls be honest
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reader, Taiken  +, writes (28 July 2010):
 He does neither love nor want a relationship with you, otherwise he would confess to you after what happened. He want to avoid destroying your friendship. I guess he values your friendship and try to keep it. That's why he avoids to talk about it because men usually believe women are sensitive, especially for young girl like in your age. Therefore men's perception of women especially young girls are easier to lose control. He should have realized, however, he was irrational at the time (but you were too). In additional, I think he is irresponsible in this case.
Asking him, if you love him and want to ask his responsibility for this case. Ignore it, if you don't like him, and still want to be friend with him, and accept that you were irrational too (because you didn't love but let let that happened).
Sorry, my words might be straight. Also there are difference among various culture. In our culture men MUST be responsible in this case.
Good luck!
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reader, kevin3007  +, writes (28 July 2010):
 why don't you talk to him about it you can put it all up in the table just tell him that what happened the other night was a mistake and you didn't know what you were thinking and what happened it's past now and you can over it and still best friends again .....first i know you guys won't feel comfortable about it but you can over it ....one of my friends slept with his best female friend but they talked about it and now they're best friends again ....unless if you have feelings for him or maybe he has feelings for you (or he wanted some fun!!)...ok the main thing is get over it and you didn't mess up your freindship ....girl you're a great friend ...good luck
ps:next time please be carefull with who you're going to sleep with.
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