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*andomando
writes:I have been on a few first dates before. I have never kissed a girl or tried to make a move on her on a first date. One, I dont feel comfortable to try and to, I would want to show her im not trying to just get with her and that I want to get to know who you are.. I went out on our first date last night. It went really good. But I feel like I should have kissed her. Two weeks ago when I started to get to know her We went to a party together and we were both sober and we danced and made out.. So I have aleady kissed her before. But I didn't on our date... Did i make a mistake by not kissing her? Also i know she likes me. But what should my next move be too? Text her later today or et her text me? I asked her out bye the way and I dont want to push her away.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 October 2012):
 I think it's a good thing you didn't kiss her on the first date honestly.
There is something about dating a guy and the "build up" to that first kiss. Where no one is really contemplating or planning whether they should kiss or not, it just happens. It's almost magical :)
Spend time with her, call her and talk.
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (17 October 2012):
 Take her out for a movie and then when you walk her home make sure u kiss her, she is probably wondering why you didn't last time, if u don't kiss her on the 2nd date she will think your too nice or your not interested, don't slip into the friend zone
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reader, daletom +, writes (17 October 2012):
Your next move? Let her know that you are attracted to her as a person . . . by spending time with her apart from "dates", chatting with her, sending her a friendship card or note, etc.
Don't over-analyze or get obsessed with not kissing her. Probably the worst that may have happened is she thinks, "He doesn't like me as much as I thought - he didn't even try to kiss me!". You solve this by letting your OTHER actions tell her that you think she's an interesting and attractive person. The best thing that may have happened is she thinks, "He's such a considerate gentleman - he didn't even try to kiss me!". Do your best to live up to her ideas - be aware of her limits and boundaries, but if she's willing to kiss, it's OK to kiss her.
And it sounds like you are making some artificial distinctions. I would have counted going to the party together as your "first date" - and if you "made out" together, then The First Kiss has already happened. Or was that perhaps simply a physical activity, without any emotion or attraction behind it? If so, you may be feeling a little guilty over doing that, because now you want to express your feelings by kissing her. At some point you should probably let her know that, but it doesn't have to be right away.
I have had fewer than a dozen "first dates" in my life, and most of those were "only dates". Only ONCE did I kiss a girl on the first date. Perhaps it wasn't really a first date, since we had been writing to each other, rather seriously, for 3 months before we even met and had our first date. I was afraid that I would ruin things by trying to kiss her on the first date, but I got up enough courage to do so . . . and she cooperated . . . and she KISSED BACK! Not just kissed back, but REALLY kissed back. One year plus two weeks after that first kiss we kissed in our wedding service, and are still married to each other over 38 years later.
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