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writes:Hello, I really need an external opinion about this situation and if i handle it badly.I met this guy one month ago and i really like him. We went to a party and we finished in bed. But i left leaving him surprised. I knew he was asking about me and i managed to get him number so i texted him two days ago.I just wanted to be cool so i just said if he wanted to go out one day. He replied right away saying that we should meet soon. I didn't try to force a date so i just said that it would be cool and i have to go. He said something like sweet dreams sweety, see you soon.But he didn't contact me again. But if he is interested he will, right ? even if i didn't ask for a precise plan .. he knows i want to see him, as i manage to contact him but now it is his turn .. or am i wrong ??? Did I handle badly the conversation ? I am feeling clumsy :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all ! It is indeed very useful.
I have asked a friend of mine (a guy) and he was laughing and said that i am unrealistic. His point is that he doesn't know me enough and after what happened he probably thought i am not interested. Then i text him five weeks later asking casually to meet one day after work (on tuesday evening) and now i expect him to call me the day after to make plans. My friend said that the guy was very kind and i do not have any element to say that he didn't mean his words.
He said that now i started this i should follow up, if the guy is happy to meet see what happens and then expect him to contact me in the future. If he says no, then forget about him ..
This is not how i saw the situation but maybe it makes sense.
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reader, appliance  +, writes (5 November 2011):
I agree... and disagree with the previous posters. They are right when they say he would have contacted you if he was that interested. At the same time, I don't think it would be a mistake on your part to ask him for another date. I would text him and ask him for a date on a precise date (like the same day, or the following day). If he's making excuses or say no, then you'll have your answer.
He might be interested in seeing you and might say yes. But since he didn't make a lot of efforts so far to propose you a hook up, it's probably not gonna be anything more than a very casual relationship, nothing serious here. It's up to you to decide if that's what you're looking for or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2011): Well presuming he knew who you were when you messaged, then he will probably contact you when he wants more sex.
Sorry, but if he had been asking around about you then he could have got your number for himself.
Just let it go now, maybe he will contact you and want to take you out properly - the balls in his court now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2011): If you gave him sex very fast then the chances are he will get in touch when he wants some more. Guys tend to lack respect for girls who give it easily.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (5 November 2011):
 Hi,
No, you did the right thing. You were casual, and didn't pressure him at all. This relationship/friendship is pretty new, he knows you want to see again, so in my opinion it's best to wait for him to contact you.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2011): Hes probably trying to wait a bit so as not to seem "desperate" ;) I find a lot of guys play that game. but at the same time, you never know. time will tell.
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reader, KittieS  +, writes (5 November 2011):
 Be warned he may very well be in touch again when he wants a repeat performance!Bottom line I'd he wanted to contact you and take you out on a date he would have contacted you already.Don't text him !!
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reader, KittieS +, writes (5 November 2011):
Be warmed he may very well be in touch again when he wants a repeat performance!
Bottom line I'd he wanted to contact you and take you out on a date he would have contacted you already.
Don't text him !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2011): it does not matter how good or bad your conversation. the truth is,if he wanted to, he would contact you. he,at this moment for some reason, does not seem over enthusiastic about it.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (4 November 2011):
 No you are right, if he is interested in you well then he will contact you, and if he doesn't then he can't be that bothered. He probably wants to leave it a while before contacting you, so I guess now it is just a waiting game.
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