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writes: well I've been dumped, and I dont know what to do or feel anymore.... and I know i should just be getting over it and not writing this... but...I was seeing a guy for a while, since around April. We were getting along great and enjoyed 'staying over' at one anothers places. I went away overseas for a while but both agreed to catching up when I got back. Now i'm back he thinks that things shouldn't continue on with us as there is too much going on in his life eg just found out he has a serious health issue (has to give up smoking - stressful for some I know), high possibility of him moving to another state next month, plus another possibility of him leaving the country a couple of months after as he is applying for his green card! (thats how the health issue came about), so I guess he is worried about a few things. All in all I thought everything was good so this is all a bit of a shock, just wondering from an outsiders point of view, that when someone says (well this part came in a text) that they like you but theres too much going on that they need to sort things out and take care, be happy, good luck with everything. Does that mean they dont want to hear from you again.(I think I know it does but just dont want to admit it)I desperately want to contact him, even just send him a text saying that I do care about him and everything thats happening with him at the moment and can we remain friends... or should I just forget about it... I should be doing work but cant concentrate on anything... this is taking up about 99.99999% of my head space for days!!!
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reader, ButterflyonFire +, writes (21 September 2006):
 I'm sorry to hear about what happend. He could have atleast talked to you in person about it. But these days the easiest way to break things off with someone is online, in a text, e-mail, ect. Technology has brought out the chickens in us and made us lazy I think.
I don't think it would hurt a bit to send him a text tellin him how you feel. Then you can have it off your chest and maybe he might respond.. who knows he might have made an abrupt decision and now he thinks you've cast him off. I wouldn't hold my breath because you know how men can be.
But, I would tell him good luck with his future plans and that you hope to keep in contact. If you two are meant to be together, somewhere along the line it will happen. I know everyone says that, but I know it happens personally.
I hope everything works out for you and that soon you can go about you everyday life without this bugging you. =)
~Jamie
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reader, Toria +, writes (21 September 2006):
 To be honest its very hard to really know what someone means in a text, I've always found its not what the person says its how the other person reads it, the take care bit on the message tells me that they don't expect to hear from you again, whether that is what they want or whether its that they feel after this you won't want to talk to them again, if you want to text asking to be friends I would, they can only say no better to know and be able to move on fully but before you ask I would make sure that you do just want to be friends and your not just wanting to be friends because your hoping that as friends you maybe able to get back in with this guy.
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