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writes:I met my bf couple of years back and from then on I don’t remember not loving him..we were away for more than 6 months due to work but then started living in the same city again.. problems started the night of our first anniversary.. he proposed me in the night a year back and i thought that maybe we'll spend time together living those moments again.. but no.. he's out there that night with his friends drinking.. that got me soo mad.. and when i asked him a few days later about why he wasn’t with me that night, he told me that 'if he has a chance he’s to relive that entire night/day again, he's going to do the exact same thing' that moment i knew that i had to break up with him..we went on a break a couple months after that and have broken up with him now but i still miss him.. i find this a very silly reason to breakup but he makes me feel so unimportant, taunts me half the time, never appreciates/compliments me.. but now that im missing him im not sure if i've made the rite choice..please advise
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reader, Renata1967 +, writes (27 September 2008):
More importantly, ask yourself what you miss from someone who makes you feel so bad about yourself so that you won't pick these kind of men in the future.
You have definately made the correct choice in my opinion, and I don't think you will have many people out there that should disagree with that unless they are just like him!!
You're just going through that initial doubt everyone goes through just after a break-up. Give it some more time.
And speaking as a 41-year-old woman, dare I say that most guys in their twenties (if that is where he's at) are still a bit on the "wild" side. They tend to like a lot of time with "the boys" at this point in their lives.
You still have time to find that "special" man, so in the meantime, be young and have some fun!! Date a lot of different guys and focus on your career and making strong friendships with other women. A man may not always be there in your life, but great girlfriends are. Remember this, and take good care of your soul....
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reader, daisylee  +, writes (26 September 2008):
i have no doubt in my mind that you have done the right thing. You deserve to be treated as well as you treat him, and if he cant do that then you deserve better and your heart knew that. It wasnt a silly reason, breaking up with him obviously hurt and was difficult for you do to and despite loving him you knew it had to be done. If it was a silly reason then you wouldnt be hurting so much.
Its hard to find someone that can tick all the boxes that we deem important but when you do, u will look back at this sore time and realise that you mad the right choice. It takes a strong strong person to break up with someone that you love because you know your not being respected that much back. Most people would put up with it or fear of being alone and end up sad without ever getting the chance to be happy.
congrats x x
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