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writes: Hi, Im a gay guy who got into a relationship about 2 weeks ago with someone who I think is "the one". I feel like it was love at first sight. However I am too scared to tell him I love him because of how quickly it has been since we got together. Anyway tonight I went on gay chat-roulette I ended up cybersexing with a guy. We didn't speak or anything just watched each other. I wasn't thinking at the time and I have no idea why I did it, I mean excuse the detail but the sex with my new boyfriend is just incredible so I have no idea why I clicked onto this site.It wasn't until afterwards I realised I had pretty much cheated on my new boyfriend and I feel truly dreadful about it, really depressed over it and I don't know what to do. I have always believed in Karma and have never cheated on anyone I don't really know what to say, I really feel in love with my boyfriend but feel so guilty over what I've done I could really do with some advise on what to do :( thanks!
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reader, Jubbajubb  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 My only advice would be to stop going on sites like that, gay guys in particular are generally more promiscuous than most.I wouldn't worry, just don't let it happen again because it spirals out of control.It's what went wrong with an ex bf, we continued to flirt with other people and do things like you did. But after a while we had lost the longing for each other.So that's my advice. Don't worry about this instance, but don't let it happen again.And as a separate thing, don't say you love him. My ex said it to me, i felt the same way. When two months later he 'fell in love' with another guy it broke my heart.So for your sake and his, don't put too much weight onto a relationship in the early days.Hope all works out, keep us posted, would love to help more if I can
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): I think in this case you would have to tell your bf and hope for the best. Some may not class this as cheating, and some might. Your best bet is to be honest and explain that it did not cross your mind at the time that it would be cheating (if that is really the case). Good luck!! be honest and be strong
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 Yes, I would consider it cheating.
I think you need to dig a little deeper for the reason as to WHY you did it. You say you don't know.. I don't believe that for a minute.
You knew it was wrong, yet you still did it, so there has to have been some sort of reason. Attention, self sabotaging, bored.. whatnot.
Think about it.
Also I think you should have a talk with your BF about what you both think is acceptable in a relationship and what is not. You need to own your actions. I don't think you can just sweep it under the rug.
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reader, lovesucks2011 +, writes (6 May 2011):
Its not cheating,don't be upset. I wouldn't tell him, it'd probably just make him mad over nothing,I sure as hell wouldn't tell my bf just cuz I watchd porn on the internet!
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reader, hope_i_could_help  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 It's good that you acknowledge what you have done is wrong and you also acknowledge that that is cheating. I suggest you talk to your bf and tell him what you did and say sorry. The guilt will go away. It is also a way of showing trust.
But I do not make your final decision, it is always yours.
Hope I could help..
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