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writes:Okay, I am 16 and I was recently involved in an abusive relationship with a guy a year younger than I am. I normally don't date younger do to their immaturity level because however I am on a higher level then most my age. Everything was perfect couldn't have been better for about a month and a half and I was with him for almost 5. After the first month and a half he started hitting me and calling me names such as c**t, telling me I wasn't worth it, He's so much better than I am, I am the worst girlfriend ever. But I cared about him and I believed he would change. After hitting me or calling me names he would hold me and tell me how sorry he was and he loved me and didn't mean to hurt me that I was the best thing to ever happen to him and he wanted to be with me forever.I stuck it out for another month hoping things would get better but in all they got worse. It got to the point where I couldn't hangout with anyone but him, He would check my text messages, my emails and even go through my room. If he found something like a text from another guy just saying hey, or even a guys number in my phone he'd beat me. He even started forcing me to have sex with him when I didn't want to. I'm not saying everytime something happened it was forced but when I would say no he'd hit tie/hold me down and him being so much stronger than I am, there was nothing I could do about it. I threatened to leave him so many times and everytime he'd cry and tell me how much he loves me and cares. Same bullshit everytime. I'd try leaving him and he'd just tell me that at some point he's going to end up killing me. He'd hit me untill I promised I would stay. I was deathly afraid of leaving him.I finally after 4 months of being abused and hurt got the courage to break it off with him.He'd made the next 1-2 months of my life hell.Calling, texting 24/7 asking me where I was what I was doing calling my friends trying to find these things out. We weren't together and it was none of his business.I am now currently beginning to date someone else but the problem is I'm afraid that maybe all guys are like this that maybe I deserve to be in that kind of relationship. Maybe it was my fault he started hitting me and calling me names.I flinch so bad just at the movement of someone's arm towards me. It is the worst feeling ever and there is nothing I can do about it.This guy I am with now really cares about me and I want to be able to trust him. But from my past relationship I find it hard. and to make matters worse my ex the one who has done this to me is trying to contact me again and I have to see him everyday in school, he's trying to get back with me. Telling me he knows I want him back and we will date again. I'm so afraid that he is going to try to do something.Please help me what do I do...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): Please tell your parents!!
If they don't see it as a big deal PLEASE call 911 and have the police get you on your way to getting a restraining order against your ex.
It is absolutely not your fault at all that he abused you physically and verbally.
it's not your fault at all!
he's insane.
he has serious issues and he needs to get help.
Please, please call 911 and file a complaint with the authorities before he abuses someone else.
you don't want that on your conscience, I promise.
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