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writes: I have a question to ask about breaking up?I was in a gay sexually active relationship, where we made love, and did most things that any sexually gay active couple would do, although I was the one most experimented on. My partner has eczema on his skin, and I've seen it before on his chest, and legs, and apparently it is on his penis.We were involved for two years, and he never let me see it, touch it, or give him a blow job, as he felt uncomfortable, and said he needed time, I was very patient, and understanding, but when we'd get intimate, he'd look at my body, touch me, and lick me all over, but I could never go there.We've broken up, and I feel used, and sexually taken advantage of, and what hurts me, is that when he in future goes on to another relationship, that they'll see him, and touch him, where I never did, and he watched me, and wanked in the dark over my body.I'm trying to make it not sound graphic, but I feel hurt and betrayed that I waited, was patient, and i didn't get anything in return, and now someone else will when he promised that we'd be together.Was I sexually taken advantage of?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): In both straight and gay relationships there is usually someone who takes a more passive role and someone who takes a more active role. I don't think you were taken advantage of at all, I think he either is very self-conscious about his body, or he is just not that way inclined. I know gay people that are either one or the other way, and a few that like both. Finding someone that you are sexually compatible with is just one of the things that determines a workable relationship and in your case I think you just wanted and expected different things.
You shouldn't worry yourself about thinking about other people being able to do something with this guy that you were never able to do. It sounds to me that he is just that way inclined and so he won't be any different with any one else.
Concentrate more on knowing that there are other people out who are more comfortable having things done to them, rather than doing things for you. I think if you have left this relationship feeling used, in future take a little more time to get to know the guy and find out what they like, and expect, from you sexually. Good luck for the future :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): I wouldnt go as far in saying you was "sexually taken advantage off" But you have to ask yourself this question did he really love you? because if he had eczema this shouldnt of played a part in anything if the both of you was truelly in love then you should of been comfortable with each other and each others body image and eczema wouldnt of played a part in anything.None of us is perfect.If i would of been you i would of confronted him about this issue if i wasnt happy with the sex roles.I hope you can now find a relationship which will be based on more of a 50/50 level good luck :)
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