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writes: I`ve been with my boyfriend for three years and we have a beautiful daughter together.The thing is I don`t feel like he`s the one for me anymore.I am a young mother and I have alot of goals for myself and my daughter,and I don`t think that I will reach any of them if I stay with him.What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, buddie +, writes (24 May 2006):
You should listen to the inner you on what you want, dont let him stop you for doing what you want or you will regret it, i have been in the same situation and i'm still in it. But i stood up for my self and i'm happy just wating for the relationship to either end or proceed. Dont let him have the power think of you and your little girlxxbuddie
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reader, honey_08 +, writes (24 May 2006):
 i agree to wendyg, talk to him first, and ask him if u can do or reach your goals together. it will be very unfair to him and to your daughter if u will just leave him, gave him a chance to be part of your success of achieving your goals, and if it doesnt work the way u want it or planned it then talk to him and after talking to him and explain what u want, and if it ends that u really need to leave him for your goals, and for your daughters future then i it will better for both of u to be friends not only for yourself, but for your daughter. i bacame a young mom also years back, the different is my ex bf left me when he found out i am pregnant and now i am a single mom, and believe me its very hard when your child asking for a father figure, so u have to save the relationship of your daughter and her dad. achieving your goals is also important, bec its not only for u, its also for your daughter, but be fair to evrything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): I agree with Wendyg, talk to him.
You should also consider the emotional consequences it will have on your daughter if you and her father were to break up. You say you have a lot of goals for yourself and your daughter, but unless your guy is a bad role model, father and boyfriend you should really work on keeping him in both your lifes, that should be your goal for your child. Believe me, the amount of people in therapy today because they blame themselves for their parents seperation is astounding.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 First and foremost you need to talk to him. Find out if he feels the same way. See if you cant find ways to achieve these goals together. You have a daughter together, is it really fair to say, well your not want I want now so im offing with your child ? You need to tell him exactly how you feel, for all you know he feels the same way. We all carry on oblivous until someone tells us that there is a problem, its only fair to keep him in the picture and see if you cant make a future together. If after talking to him and giving it a go and you find its not working then by all means move on, but you gotta give the poor fella a chance and let him see what your trying/wanting to achieve in life and to at least try and help to reach your goals. If he doesnt know what you want how can he even being to realise there is a problem. If you give it a go you may be pleasantly surprised, if you give at go you have lost nothing, but giving it ago could mean you gain everything!
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): exit now! i've been there and know you will be holding yourself back and the longer it goes on the more resentment you will feel. it will be hard to go it alone (dont make my miatake and go back again though cos it will just be the same and you will cause yourself and him more heartache) but try and stay focused on your goals and dont look for another guy to get you out of trouble cos once you are standing on your own too feet your want rid of him as well. better to wait until yoou are coping wellon your own before staring a new relationship
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