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writes: Hi, im really after some advice. About 3 months ago my girlfriend ended our relationship of 2 years because of my drinking habit. I used to drink just about every night after work and had roughly 4/5 cans each night. She told me pleanty of times to stop yet I just couldnt go without my beer. I was gutted when she told me and have not felt right since. I made the mistake of texting her each day and calling her to try and work things out, but I think she wanted some time and space to sort herself out and rarely replies to my texts and emails anymore. Ive been told that she has been seen out with another fella but claims nothing serious is going on. From the day we split I stopped drinking right away and have not had one drink in the past 3 months. My parents came into a bit of money after Christmas this year and agreed to book a holiday to Italy for the 4 of us. Ive spoken to my ex girlfriend and she still wants to come away (on June 20th) but keep it as friends. I really want to sort things out when we are away, but i dont know what action to take. Im also left wondering why she would want to go all that way on holiday if there is another man in her life. Any advice would be great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): Thanks for your advice. I regret pestering her so much with texts and calls...I really hope I havent messed things up for myself...Also, she is deffinately not the girl to just come away coz its free. If she didnt want to go I can assure you she wouldn't...Im also worried that this "friend" she has been going out with may be more than a "friend". But then I wonder again why she would come and why he would let her come if it was more than that....
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 First off, its a free holiday! Why wouldnt she want to go!? Anyways, maybe she wants to see what your like in a different climate for a change, and to see how she feels, the just friends thing, could well be to protect herself. Dont push her, let her come to you, show her that you have changed and maybe even try and talk as mates, and see how goes, the key is to not pressure her at all. Enjoy the time away together and see if a breathe of fresh air can rekindle the two of you. But be warned she could just be going along for the holiday thinking what the heck have i got to lose. I hope this isnt the case, but she really needs to see that you have changed before she will even begin to consider getting back with you. Take it slow, see what evolves, lets hope your pleasantly surprised, but do keep the pressure off!
Good luck!
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