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writes:I recently came across someone at workplace whom iam still not sure was friendly or friendlier or merely helpful ... His eye contact was constant..The smile on his lips never died down quickly whenever he spoke to me..His eyes seemed to light up...I was openly stared at and i myself caught him in the act ..Pranks were played more often with me than with others .. There were times when we felt we were having a heartfelt conversation about our likes and dislikes ...Others in the room were hardly a part of the proceedings .. i was cajoled with a pleading look (a numerous " a few more morsels at least " ) if i didnt finish up my lunch ....He caught my wrist with a smile and took some time to release it ... He silenced me with a look when i called him an ideal brother material (just to check he felt that way for me!!)..He was always there to help me when if i didnt know what to do ... But then before we could proceed any further we were separated due to circumstances ... During this time he was in no position to call me or talk to me (his family life became tempestous)... during this time i discovered purely by accident that all this while he had a girlfriend while all this happened..He's even told her about me (though i was unable to find out what exactly he told her ).. I was shocked and didnt know how to react ... I wasnt even sure if i should comfort him during his troubled times or stay away from him..one of my friends (not his gf ) who also knows him meanwhile came in between and went out of her way to comfort him all the while hinting me to stay away from him stating that iam not a close friend enough as she is ...He's has not bothered to maintain contact with me at all though he talk to my friend regularly.... later when i spoke to him about an assignment he tone and words seemed very harsh ..I was hurt by all this and thoroughly confused by what happened..A few days back when i met him at office he hardly spoke to me but keeps looking at me whenever he thinks iam not noticingWas he merely friendly with me or was it more than that ?? Am i right in hurting myself over him ?? Any tips on how to get over this ??Pls advise aunts and uncles ...
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 So you worked together but didn't become friends, to the extent he never told you about his personal life? I think it's fairly safe to say he was being friendly, perhaps a bit flirtatious, but nothing more than that.
To get over him, remember that he never took you into his confidence, which indicates that you are excluded by him from his inner circle of close friends. It's not nice, to be led on in this way. I think working up a little anger would help you come to terms with this.
Definitely stop discussing him with this other friend, she may wind up ruining your career!
Men who cheat on their girlfriend's are a dime a dozen; wait for a guy who is truly worth your devotion.
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