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writes:Ok i’m going to get right into it. I meet this amazing guy. We meet three weeks ago so of course i’m not in love but i can’t stop thinking about him. He’s two years older and he lives a state over about a 3hr car ride. The first day we meet he was really flirty. My friends warned me that he was a major player my name starts w/ a b and all my friends say i’m going to be his b in the alphabet. Anyways so the first day we meet he’s being a big flirt, i ignored him b/c i don’t want to give in to him b/c i know when he’s single he’s always looking for the next hookup. But he was persistently trying to hug me and make me laugh, so then i wondered if he wanted more then a hookup. B/c every time i’m w/ him so is my friend all call “amy”. I luv amy b/c she's one of my best friends. But she was trying to get all over him and he rejected her. (remember that)So a few weeks later we meet up in a group we tryed to put his arm around me and asked if i would hold his hand i said no. Eventully that night he gave up, but he wasnt trying to hit on other girls he was still nice to me he just kept his distance b/c i asked him to. Then a few days ago him and his friend and my 2 friends all went to my friends house and watched a scary movie. Me and him- we just snuggled then we all sat around and played truth/dare. He got dared to kiss me he knew i didnt want 2 kiss so he kissed me on the cheek. Later i was dared to kiss him for 30 secs. When he knew i wouldnt he picked me up and ran around w/ me i was laughing the whole time. Then he put me on the ground and in his sweetest voice said wh can do this the easy way or the hard way. I said the hard way and tryed to get up but he pined me down and kissed me about 4-5 sec kiss. It was really nice. After that people started hooking up to know suprise "amy" found another guy. Then we got dared to go into a bathroom for 7 mins we went in there and just talked about life and his school it wasnt weird at all just innocent. Later i pulled him aside and asked why the first day he liked me and not "amy" he said b/c his ex gf name was "amy", he said it in his cute sarcistic way but i wondered if it was true. We talked for the rest of the night. At the end of the night when they left (around 1am) he huged me goodbye i looked up at him and he kisssed me for about 15secs. Later i txted him and said why dont u just do your own thing and all do mine b/c we are not ment for each other. I was scared of rejection and didnt know how to act. All he said back was aight. Then next day i txted him and told him everything how i liked him and i only said we should go are own ways b/c i was scared of rejection. He said he understood and he wanted 2 be w/ me but he felt it would never work b/c of the distance. What made me doubt that he evr liked me was then he said oh but we can do other stuff when i'm in town.So my question do you think this guy evr liked me or was just trying to hookup? Or just leave a comment idc..Just need some feed back,Thanx for listening =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): It seems as if he just really into hooking up. He's relatively young still and has expressed he didnt think a long distance relationship would work, he knew you guys were long distance from the start, so it seems he never really had intentions on being in a relationship with you. Thats not to say that he doesnt like you or isnt attracted to you....he just wants to have a good time with no strings attached, which is ok, if you can accept that and you guys are on the same page.
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reader, lola34  +, writes (30 December 2010):
Hey there, it sounds like this guy was trying to figure you out. It is good you kept a distance because he likes you, yet he likes others to. One thing with love is, no matter the obstacle, people will fight to make it work. Distance would have been nothing if he loved/liked you. My man lives 3 hours away, and we make it work. This guy that you have a crush on is not worth the trouble or the effort. If he's in town, he knows 'oh I can hook up with this chic'. As for him not wanting Amy... he obviously likes a challenge. You were his challenge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): He gave you your answer: he said it won't work... Forget the reason he gave you, just the fact that he's saying it won't work means that he doesn't want a relationship with you, for whatever reason.
I'd be careful when he's in town. It's up to you whether you want to "do other stuff" when there is no relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): i definitely think he liked you from the way you describe it. as a guy his age, i can imagine how he was feeling. he probably did like you, but accepted that you didn't feel that a relationship would work.
and he told you that he would still like to do stuff when he was in town. he's a guy. don't misinterperet what he said. if i was him, i'd be thinking 'she doesn't want to date because of the distance, but we could still have some fun'.
so unless you can't handle the thought of him being with other girls besides you, i would just go with what he says, and have fun with him when he's around. but if you really like him, then tell him, and maybe you could make the relationship work.
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