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writes:I became friends with a co-worker whom I later developed a crush on. I admitted my crush to him bad thing is we are both married(his wife also works in our offices where we work). So that is bad in it self. After revealing my crush I found out the feeling was mutual. That was in Jan. of this year. We became very close, he became next to my husband my best friend (he said that I was also one of his best friends as well). We both were having a rough time at home and were able to talk with one another to help fix things. We text each other good morning and good night. We would txt for hours in the mornings on weekends. My husband knows of our txting his wife doesnt know the extent of it. We ended up meeting after work to talk and that led to hugs and kisses. It never went beyond there. In May our work decided we spent too much time together. They told him that we needed to work with others more as I am not a hired on employee i was not included in this meeting(or that was the reasoning I was told by our manager when I asked what was going on). We did as work has asked but since then he has begun to txt me tons less on weekends and became more distant even in his txts. He has also ended our meeting after work as well.I questioned him about this and he just says that he is hiding his feelings and that he is just trying to keep the peace. Well now he is basically being promoted and that leaves even less time to visit at all with me. I guess my question would be is this. Did he just use me till he was able to get what he wanted or am I just reading to much into it?
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reader, Cabby +, writes (8 July 2010):
Cabby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthx for your reply! Update: I have been trying to fix the things that are wrong with my marriage. Even though hubby thinks there is nothing to fix that i am just over reacting to things. As for my friend he says that he txts less on weekends cause I'm with my hubby where I should be and that he doesnt want to intrude on our time together. We still say morning and nite everyday and ask how things are stuff like that. I do at times think his wife found out. Thanks again for the reply.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 July 2010):
Well one way or another, you were used. That's for sure. Either he used you and hoped you'd give in and give him sex, or he used you for a promotion. Or his own wife found out. I'd suggest that you get back to your marriage and work on it, before you end up with nothing. There are obviously problems in your marriage, and they need to be addressed right about now.
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