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writes:hey this may not sound like a big problem but to me it is. i started my job a little over a month ago now but ive developed feelings for my supervisor and cant get him out of my head. i have no idea if he feels the same way and i want to approach him about it but im worried he wont feel the same way or that it'll make my job difficult. please help me because i can feel myself falling in love with him and i dont know what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): I have the exactly the same situation. I am falling for my boss. He is young and not married (although he told me he has a long distance relationship). I am also a little over 2 months at my job...We have great communication (we see each other once a week for meetings). I feel attracted to him and can't help it. But I am trying to convince myself that I should just act professionally and be cold with him, and just talk only business...But it is hard because he always smiles at me and talks about life issues and asks me questions about my new apartment and things like that...He is very open person and that can be seen as if he likes me too...
I'll just suggest that you be yourself with him and do not tell him about your feelings. See over few months where it will lead you. The best thing would be forget about him actually...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): You need to stop this nonsense about falling in love with your supervisor right now!
Don't be foolish: you have been in this job one month. He is your BOSS. Its just not appropriate for you to try to approach him. Think of the embarrassment for yourself if you do so, and for him! You know that the moment you take action it will be all over the office - your coworkers will give you a hard time one way or another.
It will not be looked on with favor, I do assure you.
You stand to have a very awkward, uncomfortable working environment, and may well be considered as someone who does not know how to comport (conduct) herself appropriately at work. I can see your performance review right now. One of the remarks could well be "uses poor judgment." It could lead to your being fired.
Therefore, what you do is - NOTHING. Leave it alone! Focus your energies on doing your job to the best of your ability, and get on with social activities you enjoy when not at work. See if you can find a guy outside the workplace you can pal up with, and maybe have a relationship.
For heaven's sake, wake up and snap out of this!
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reader, kenny +, writes (3 January 2007):
 hi there,
Has he given you any signs that he may be interested in you, maybe by way of flirting, or eye contact. Before you rush in and ask him i would adopt a few flirtatious tacticts to test the water, if he responds you will know he likes you and you can progress forward.
But be carful, workplace dating is fun and exciting while things are good, but when things go sour it could get pretty nasty.
Let me know how it goes, and good luck
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (3 January 2007):
 Whoa, slow down! You just started a job a little over a month ago which tells me you have actually spent maybe 200 hours with this guy, you are falling in love with him , he is your supervisor and you have no idea if he likes you back the same way or not? To me this sounds like a crush or and infatuation... very different than what love is. Get a grip on yourself, go to work, do your job, and IF and ONLY IF he approaches you and tells you he wants to see you outside of work should you consider getting in a relationship with this guy. If you go up to him and tell him that you have feelings for him, he is likely to look at you like you have lost your mind. I can't see how THAT would be beneficial to your job. If you simply can't NOT tell him how you feel, find another job first, then go back as an interested party, NOT as an employee. But be prepared to any response (positive or negative) that you may get.
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reader, Miss trust +, writes (3 January 2007):
 Is it really love that you are feeling or is it infatuation? you need to determine this before doing anything. You also really need to consider how its going to affect your work, if you confront him and he doesnt feel the same way, will things be weird or will they carry on as normal?
If he does feel the same way then good for you but you need to remember to keep work and love seperate, in case things go wrong in the future.
Overall good luck :)
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