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writes: HiI am 19 and in my first year at uni. Before I left I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years even though I still love him. Though I miss him I thought that a long distance relationship wouldn't work and that he would't be able to get on with his own life if he was constantly waiting for me to call, so I moved on and started dating a new guy. I have now found out that he is seeing someone at home and am devastated. He says that he still loves me (even though I really hurt him) and if I say the word we will get back together. I love him and really miss him but I still dont know wheather it will work out and dont want to hurt my new boyfriend, who I think I am in love with too. Basically I have to choose and I dont know how.
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reader, bee +, writes (25 October 2005):
I think you're being selfish. basically you started dating someone new and now you're annoyed because he's not eating hi heart out for you anymore and seems happy without you! You even having him willing to take you back, despite his new girlfriend and still you;re messing him around, saying you';ll have to think about choosing between them. let this poor guy go! You obviously would have tried tp make it work in the first place if you cared about him enough or if you didn't make a mistake, you would know for sure that you wanted him back.
Give him the chance to get over his heartbreak and be with someone who's crazy about him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2005): How do you know a long distance relationship wouldnt work out if you didnt give it a chance? Hundreds of people do it. I'm doing it! and if you love each other like you say you do then distance shouldnt propose itself as too much of an issue.
However in regards to your new boyfriend you say you don't want to hurt him but wouldnt talking to your ex behind his back about a possible reconciliation be hurtful if he found out?
If you have too many doubts about it working long distance with your ex then move on. Change is good!
All the best!
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