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writes:This has been the most frustrating time of my life. To start the year off I decided I would get back with my ex girlfriend. Who had gotten married for money so this guy could get a green card. Yeah there was no money lol. But I had been in a relationship with her for 4 years. She is currently in jail for a DUI resulting in violating her probation. I had also lent her my truck and her asshole husband beat the crap out of her and threw her down a flight of stairs resulting in her breaking her back and getting my truck impounded This was the last straw and I told I could no longer be with her. We argued for a few weeks and she finally told me she no longer loved me. She went to jail and haven't spoke since.So I also got hurt at work and severed to tendons in my thumb, and then 2days after Mother's Day, my Mother passed away and it's gotten me really downMy truck also broke down yesterday and it just feels like I just cant win.
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 I'm sorry to hear you have gone through all this, and especially sorry about the loss of your mother.
It sounds like a lot of the negative events in your life arose from your association with your ex-girlfriend. Cutting ties with her was and is the right choice. I know it's tough to see someone you cared about in an abusive situation, but you can't help her if she won't accept help, and she is an adult, so she has the right to make her own choices even if they are stupid ones.
Terrible though it is to be injured, it's likely better for you that the injury happened at work and not away from work. Assuming you are not self-employed, with a work-related injury you may at least be eligible for coverage and compensation via a workman's comp program. (Check with your employer, with the laws pertaining to your state, and with a qualified attorney if need be.)
I've been at a point in my life where I felt I hit rock bottom and it's a horrible feeling, but the thing about rock is that it's a solid foundation for anything you build in the future. When things are about as bad as they can get, a step in just about any direction is an improvement. Perhaps the best piece of advice I came across for coping with misfortune was the understanding that whatever event(s) you feel negatively about "will never feel worse than today." I have found that to be true. The human mind contains remarkable coping mechanisms and things that were once gut-wrenching for me have become easier to accept as time fades them. Recognize that your emotions about these situations are not temporary, but the all-consuming intensity of the attention these situations currently have in your life is. For example, you will likely carry some measure of sadness about the passing of your mother for the rest of your life, but it will not always occupy your thoughts with the same intensity that it does now. As you progress in life the sadness of loss will be slowly diminished by other things - happy memories you shared with her and the joys of the future... perhaps one day celebrating Mother's Day with children of your own.
I really hope this helps you. Good luck and best wishes for brighter days ahead.
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