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writes:Another year older and even more depressed, I have nothing to show for it, not even a freind, no job, no car, no life, no social life, never had boyfriend at this stage there is no point, never travelled, the country is in recession. Life is going down hill for a very long time. I have tried improving life for my self but it leads to nothing, just replys from saying there nothing here for you. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): ckl are from the north of ireland.do you understand my problem .my counseling told i mix with all the wrong.but who are the wrong.i so many different type of pain and rejection with long complex attached to it.dated back since i was 4 yaers old.shaped the way i am now,
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reader, Ck1  +, writes (1 January 2009):
hello,
if you want to send me a private message i would be more than happy to chat with you, because ive had times like you are saying, i see your from ireland i am from n.ireland, if you wana private message me i would be happy :)
thanks clare
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): You really do paint a gloomy picture, and I sympathise with you. I have experienced downward spirals and it sucks! I finally had to take charge of my life and make it what it is today. Some of the things were to find a church I enjoyed going to, finding a self-help group sponsored by my church, Healing the Wounded Woman...that helped me to understand my own behavior caused by past experiences and seeing more of the "good" in life. I also sought out a counselor which helped tremendously. But I think the most important thing I had to do was discuss my feelings with my medical doctor. I have been on antidepressants and antianxiety meds for two years and it makes a world of difference! Just recently, because my life is going fairly well, I thought maybe I no longer needed the meds. I started to wein my self off by taking less and less...I first cut the dose in half and then tried taking them every other day, and before long ya know what? I was back to being Ms. Gloom & Doom! So, now I know I need those two little pills...one in the morning the other before bed. It's no big deal, and it makes a world of difference! That's the end of my experimentation! My life isn't perfect, but who's is????
I live in a Mobile Home Park in Arizona (I can't bring myself to call it a Trailer Park) I have a small one bedroom Mobile Home that I have fixed up (very cheaply) to my liking. Coming home is something I always look forward to because I think of it as my sanctuary. It's surrounded by comforting things that relflect my personality and who I am. I live from paycheck to paycheck, and don't can't spend on a lot of extras.
The one thing I do have is a decent job. And I think without that, I would be depressed, even with the meds.
So the first thing you need to do is find yourself a job. I know the economy sucks right now, but start small...any job available to help you feel better about yourself. Sitting home and dwelling on the negative, just makes you more depressed! Find organizations that can help you emotionally...they are out there. Find a doctor who will help you with meds.
Don't keep replaying those tapes in your head as to how bad the situation is. Replace it with positive affirmations..."I can do better" "I am worth the effort" "I am a good person and deserve better"
I would like to add that I made all the changes in my life while in my 50s...You are so young and have a beautiful life ahead of you, if you just make the effort to change things...one step at a time! Make 2009 the best year of your life!
Good Luck, and Happy New Year!
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reader, pietry  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 First of all hope is the most important. I don't want to give you illusions, it's all up to you. Find the strength in what you please most and what you care most about. Take a piece of paper and write down all the things that are important to you. Look at yourself in the mirror and try to discover what you see beautiful, and be confident about that. Don't jump too high to solve everything from one step. A pet like a cat can be helpful in some moments, they can be full of love. Try to find a friend where you least expect, nature is a good start. Let the things that feed you energy get out and perhaps others will see it as well. Give people and yourself a chance, don't see the failure in it from the start. Find some books to read so you can enter some other universe with the mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): orginal post:
i oftern feel suicidal .did i attempt to kill my self.but the car stop the man roared in the car.
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reader, roadman +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Well the internet is a great place to start to make friends and build a social life,online there always people to talk to and build friendships,once you start to build soild friendships in different areas then you can travel to see your friends and spend time,then even think about settling down in a new area where there may be work..
If your interested in work,then make friends in large cities.
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