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writes:wel i dont no wer 2 start!im 16 and 7 months pregnant but thats not the hard bit i feel really depressed recently as the babys father my boyfriend has been sent 2 jail on remand but hes not coming out for a while! but it is for the best in a way bcuz hes on drugs meanin crack n heroin and the only way for him 2 cum clean is jail as his associates he cant say no to if u no what i mean well anyway hes also a thief my family doesnt get on well with him they say hes a bad influence but hes 24 n im 16 but the age isnt a problem! im in such a mess i dont no weather im comin or goin i miss him loads as im usually with him 24/7 as we did live together for about 10 months it would be nice if i could speak to someone whos in the same boat as me so plz get in touch or i just need advice on what to do i mean im gonna stay with him as he was there when i needed him i jus feel really down in the dumps!!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 Hi,
the statistics dont favour your boyfriend. If he moves back to the same area when he gets out, chances are he will reoffend again. Now if you were in a stronger position you may be able to call the shots by getting him away from the bad influences and starting a new life outside. But you are a pregnant teenager, you are very vulnerable. And, moreover, you run the risk of losing your baby if you get back with your boyfriend and he gets in more trouble.
You owe it to your baby to put him/her first. Give him the condition that if he wants to see you and the baby he has to prove that he is clean. He has to get a job, find somewhere to live , and live a clean life - no drugs.
good luck.
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (17 April 2008):
 I know it can be hard to stay with someone because they have seemed to be there when you needed someone and because you feel loved. Ok lets hit it hard.
Your baby is born, while the father is in jail so, one you are on ya own there. When he comes out he may be clean but if you plan on staying in the same area then he is sure to get back onto the drugs, so that leads me to this conclusion. Your b/f doped up to the eye balls meanwhile your running round after a baby trying to scrape together a bit of money because you either have no food for the baby or theres no nappies becasue your b/f has spent it on a bag.
Harsh yeah maybe so but as danielle said who;s more important to you. A guy that could last for either 2 mins or years to come or someone that is helpless, your responsability and depends on you?
Think of it this way, would you want your child growing up and then at 13 catching him/her hitting up? When you ask why and tell them its wrong all they gonna say is well dad did it so why cant i.
Parents are here to set an example to their children and my point of veiw is even though it may be hard is if you cant bring your child up to know the difference between right and wrong then you shouldnt be bringing them up.
Do whats right for you and yur baby.!!!!!!
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (17 April 2008):
 Dont get to stressed as you have a baby to think about and it can make your baby stress to. Tell your bf if he doesnt get clean you will leave him i mean who means more to you your bf or your un born child, If your carry on ceing him and doesnt stop the drugs social servicees will get involved and take your baby away if it's round drugs, is that what life you want for the baby. You have to put your feeling aside and think whats best for your chilD.
gOOD luck.
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