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writes:hi everyone.I know I have to forget my ex as he is not good for me. However, try as I might... i really still cannot forget this lucky asshole. Most days I am okay and I tell myself, "to hell with him, he can get lost forever". But still I have this episodes of depression coming every 2 weeks. I feel like calling him and wish for him to give me a call during these episodes. I think of him and the hurt he has caused me. The wounds are too deep. It plays in my mind over and over.There is this obsession every 2 weeks of thinking about him and I am so sick and tired of being like this. This has been going on since we broke up 10 months ago. How can I get out of this situation? I really need advice.
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 After a year,I still think of this guy...Yeah,I dated another guy I really liked after him,but no I still find myself having these episodes you have.
I think we will have to accept that some people have an impact on our life. Also,it might be cause you havent found anyone like him.
Sometimes I have the urge to read our chats,but I dont do it cause I know I will end up in crying. I know exactly how you feel.
What I did? I take an italian course twice a week,I go to gym a lot...I try to be social....and i hope that one day I will find a guy who measures up to him.
This can also be because the break up was bad. In my case,I appeared so crazy,and now I wish I went different about it,and sometimes i find myself wanting to e-mail him and explain how things happened.
But I don't do it.
I'm sorry,I know I'm getting personal here,but as you can see it's all because I can relate to you this much.
One night I was at the club,having the time of my life when the dj played "right now na nana" by Akon....Can you believe I weeped? I got so mad at myself...."a year has passed and you weep for him?" I felt stupid.I promised myself I will try my hardest not to think about all that or I'll go crazy.
I don't know If I helped you or not,I just want you to know that other people go through what you do,you're not alone in this,and for those who say IT WILL GET BETTER IN TIME....sometimes it doesn't.
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reader, benudged +, writes (5 March 2010):
Hi. It sounds like you're really dealing with a lot of pain right now and this pain keeps returning because you haven't been able to really let it go. Good for you for not calling him when you feel the urge to reach out! This is a great first step to getting over him.To get over him for good, you really need to allow yourself some time to express your pain in a way that is beneficial for you. For some people, it's listening to music, others like to write a private letter to their ex (you NEVER share it with anyone) or talk out loud and others take a kickboxing class, yoga or something else. Find what would work best for you to help you express your pain and everything that you feel. I hope this helps!
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