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writes:I'm 23 and feel like my life is going absolutely nowhere, I left school at 15 with decent grades, enough to take any college course I wanted, but instead went out and have since worked a number of dead end jobs with no prospects, all physical work which I don't like. My problem is that Iv never known what I want to do with my life. Sometimes I feel like there's no way forward for me and I get very depressed. I see some of my old peers who I was equal to academically now living on their own and with great careers, and I wish I had the same, i have a real problem motivating myself, I have a girlfriend who is the best thing in my life, I would love to move in together and get married but I just can't afford it, I feel like Iv wasted the last 8 years of my life
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): If you have discovered that dead end jobs are no good for you and you want more out of life, then the last 8 years have not been a waste.
The REAL waste will be spending the rest of your life, dithering about, wishing things were better but doing nothing about it.
If it helps many, many guys around your age have a period of `treadmill depression` wondering if this is it! It is quite common.
If you dont know what direction to take in life, how about interests? If you pick something you really enjoy it will be easier to go into that line of study and work be it sport, computing, engineering, art, movies, drama. The list is endless.
Start with what you enjoy and see whats out there for you in the way of study. And if you need motivation, look at the motivational and inspirational vidoes on Youtube. There is bound to be one that strikes a cord and motivates you.
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reader, Mariab +, writes (13 November 2012):
 Its NEVER TOO LATE!!...Here is my doctor's story... She married young to an a** hole and had 3 kids. He left her when she was 30 for a younger woman...She was left with 3 kids and no career. So she went to college and she is now a doctor! A great one at that!! You have youth on your side ... 23 years is so young! Don't waste more time wondering what could of been. Cut your losses... grab the bull by the horns and get out there!!! Its tough to start again...but you won't be sorry AGAIN! xxx
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reader, mrs. middlebrooks  +, writes (13 November 2012):
Me and my husband have been together for 2 years I know how you feel I actually graduated from high school and did some college but didn't like it I have been working dead end jobs since I was old enough to work me and him have been homeless and sleeping in my car for2 weeks lived in and out ofhotels for weeks here is what we did. Everyweek we put back alittle money even if it wasonly a couple of dollars and we wudnt allow ourselves to spend it and eventually we made it :) I hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): Loads of people start college in their early-mid 20's. By 35 you don't know who went to college after high school, who graduated from grad school at 26 vs 34, it just all becomes irrelevant. There are many paths to success.
First you need to stop comparing yourself. Turn off facebook.
Second - go to the local university and find out from an academic advisor what you need to do to get into some of their programs. Work away towards your pre-requisits (if there are any).
Third, consider yourself lucky you are living in the UK. You can go straight into a 'career' like law or medicine or pharmacy out of high school. In the US and Canada you need to go do a regular bachelors degree for four years and then apply for four more years of law/pharmacy/medicine.
If I were you I'd pick a solid high paying career, set a goal to be working in that career by 30 and GO FOR IT. Like I said, by 35 you don't know who did what when. Everyone just has some type of job/career. Some finished at 25, some at 29, some at 35...some aren't even done at 35 or havent found their path yet!
Do your A levels or whatever you need to do and apply to multiple schools. Move if you have to to attend a school. Apply into a solid career, I can't emphasize that enough - a skilled trade (carpentry/plummer/mechanic) always pays well OR if you are very book smart head into medicine/pharmacy/law/engineering/computers. Again, make sure you gain a SKILL in your education - history, English studies, georgraphy and so on doesn't pay. You'll be unemployed. GET a SKILL career.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): so stop wasting the next years, make a list of what you can do, I also didn't have much idea about what I wanted to study at college so I eliminated everything related with the subjects I hated, then I tried to find among those I liked something that might suit, anyway if you hate dead end jobs the only way of improving your situation is building a career, and that takes time and effort, moaning about how depressed (have you been diagnosed?)won't help!Just because you don't know what you wanna do doesn't mean you don't have to do nothing at all, if I were to spend my life sitting on my arse waiting until it struck me what my true calling was, I'd still be sitting while life was passing, life is too short to be wasted, you can study something then if you don't like it too much, you can do your masters in a field that is not necessarily so closely related, you may end up working with something different, possibilities are endless, you may also try to qualify for something if you don't want to do menial jobs for the rest of your life.
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