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writes:im 19 and hate my life, i know there are worse people off then me but i fell really down all the time. all i do is come home from college and sit in my room. all my friends are busy with there boyfriends and i dont know what to do i have tried finding a boyfriend but everytime i do they never want a realtionship. what should i do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, cnith  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 Try writing a novel. Or just writing in general. Just get one of those 99 cent notebook things and start writing. Doesnt matter if you're coherent or babbling or anything. Just write whatever comes to your head. Don't worry about style or anything, this isn't an essay and no one's grading it. What you want to do is get it all out.
After a while you'll find yourself Journaling. That helps to get feelings out.
If you don't like writing, try singing, drawing, knitting, whatever but do something. The WORST thing you can do is wallow in your unhappy state.
Realise that you're not alone. We ALL get this way from time to time. Some more than others. I kick myself out of it by writing. I wrote a novel describing my perfect bf and what he'd be like...and funny enough, eventually, I got someone similar. I don't know why it happened, but I guess I had focused so much on the guy in my book I made him come to life...well, OK, made him come INTO my life.
If it could happen to me, it could happen to you. Why not?
All I know is writing has saved my butt many times. I can get it out with out killing anyone. That's a good thing. :)
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (21 April 2010):
 This is one of those catch 22, chicken and the egg situations. You need to get a life before you get a boyfriend.
That means you need to get out, get involved, join in. The boyfriend will come with time if you live that type of lifestyle. You won't get a boyfriend and instantly have a life.
Some ideas where you can meet new pals: Sports/social clubs, place of work, uni/college, courses.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 I know that at 19 it is difficult but impose yourself to take a break from dating and boyfriends and relationships.
Don't try finding a boyfriend- forget about it for a while and put your energy into something totally unrelated.
Sport, dance,music,art,volunteering,-anything at all- there must be something that you would like to learn,or to be good at, or just to try.
I know it sounds lame but it works .
when you feel lonely and unwanted, it sends off vibes and inevitably it shows in your verbal and body language and it tends to keep people away from you. It shows when you are tryng too hard-even if it's just in your mind.
Au contraire, when you find a source of pleasure and satisfaction in your life (other than from dating ), that gives you a sense of accomplishment and self confidence that is very attractive and slowly spills over in any area of your life.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): I know where you are coming from, but dont compare your self to others.You just need to be yourself.You may need to keep youself busy but my advice is to find a job (since your 19).There are many boys around the world and i know that there's one in the world thats just perfect to you but it takes time for a relationship to grow.Try to do something special for someone else and your kindness will always be paid back.Like a meal with your friends , also about the job make sure its a job you'll enjoy.If thats just satisfying enough try moving around your house finding what to do like on your computer theres millions of things.
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