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writes: Ok here's my story:Im 16 male had no relationship for a year n bin turnd down more times thn i can count. I jus given up, had enough I just feel really depressed. I have low self-confidence, I always think im ugly n worthless, that's probably why Ive been rejected so much. No1 ever seems 2 b interested in me. any advice as to feel a bit better bout it maybe? or just any other advice? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2006): It's the hardest advice in the world to act upon, but you seem to have an inkling of it already: being depressed turns other people off. Given the choice, would you start going out with someone who always feels like shit, or someone who's relatively content at least most of the time? If you want to start exuding good vibarations, start doing things for yourself that make you happy. If you want to feel better about being single, you need to reframe the entire question of dating. Being single isn't about losing out on the "best thing ever". Being single or being in a relationship is just about trading one set of problems for another. Maybe you don't have some girl doting on you all the time, but by the same turn you don't have some girl trying to change all your "bad" habits. Try and make the best of being single while you can, because it might not last!
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reader, damagincutie +, writes (22 April 2006):
 hey cw, maybe u havent had a relationship cuz ur looking in all the wrong places.its probably right under ur nose n u keep missing it.your only 16,u have ur whole life ahead of you.one year without a relationshop is not that bad.lots of ppl go longer without a relationship. it seems to me that ur just not comfortable with urself.and u dont love urself.dont tell urself ur ugly n worthless cuz if thats how u see urself, that how other people would see you too.u have to tell urself, that u r indeed a great person.and u r the way u r because thats the way God intended u to be.and u r special.we all are. what you shud really do is use this time to look into urself.find out who YOU are and try getting to know yourself,accepting yourself and loving yourself.if u dont love yourself,how do u expect anyone else to?
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reader, Treysbabygirl_44 +, writes (22 April 2006):
 ok what you should try and do is start getting out more often and dont so negatively about yourself. i was in the same situation as you are in now and i was always putting my self down but then one day i realized that it is not worth it to think so negativly so pretty soon after i started thinking more positive about my self a boy (my current bf) asked me out. so dont give up just start thinking more positive about your self and dont put yourself down so much go out and have some fun ok.hope i have been some help
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reader, Softie +, writes (22 April 2006):
 Hi cw, Confidence is something you need to work on for yourself and for that someone very special in your future. You need to break the cycle of being rejected and feeling more depressed. Try putting off dating for awhile. Discover yourself. What are you really good at? What do you really enjoy doing? Spend some time doing some things you are good at to make yourself feel better and more confident. (And please let it be something that doesn't hurt others.)One really good thing to do is to volunteer at the shelter, hospital, etc. Believe it or not, volunteering is a great way to meet people.Good luck to you.Softie
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