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writes:my daughter started a 'relationship'with a 19 year old from pakistan when she was 15.this has all been happening without our knowledge.we have now found out.she is now 16(so 'legally' she can date who she wants)she says she loves him.i am petrified that he isnt who he says he is,as she has never met him.surely he could be anybody!! she wont listen to reason and is planning on meeting him at some point and says she is going to spend her life with him.i am so scared he does not have the 'intentions' she thinks he has and i dont know what to do,as everything i say to her,she simply ignores.am i over reacting?how can i get threw to her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): It's unlikely that you'll get through to her - she's a teenager! Teenagers know everything about life don't they? (and of course, their parents know nothing!)
If he's in Pakistan and likely to stay there, and your daughter here, I don't think you have much to worry about, but if he comes to visit make sure you get her to bring him home so that you can give him the 'once over' treatment. Better still, go with her when she first meets him - if indeed she does. Be insistent about it. Better safe than sorry, after all, he could be a 40 year-old paedophile who's got his hooks into her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): You are definatley not over reacting. We are still young at 15 and 16 so we are bound to say stupid things we regret later. Try talking to her as an adult like saying 'I want to talk to you lke a mature adult because i know you can. Please'.
Maybe you could see if she could take a friend or two with her to meet him as it would be safer and it would help her 'see how he reacts to around her friends'. A man who hates your friends is much less attractive and if this man is a predator then i assume he would. Just be careful.
xxoo
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