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writes:hi i have been dating my boyfriend for 1 month and ten days we make out we kiss nd we hugg but when i tell him i love you he tells me i love you too but he doesnt say it like he means it but when we kiss there is that spark that starts a flame between us i really like him but i am not sure if he really loves me I Also get really jelous whenever he is around girls i lett him noe and he says no not worry because he would never hurt me like that it is really hard to belive him that he loves me but i dont know i am very confused . Plz help me!!!
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reader, Blahblahblah82 +, writes (31 March 2010):
Blahblahblah82 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea he broke upp with me i told him that i wanted to know the truth about some things because i started to hear rumors that he asked me out on a dare and then he didnt really love me then i also heard that he asked out a girl named sandy and supposably she said no and dissed him but i dont belive that she said no because she likes him toit all got really confusing for a while two girls started to cause problems because theyy liked him and nobody knew that i liked him then he askes me out and i sayy yess but i dont know why he broke up with me in the first place but yea i asked him for another chance and he said no :(( but yea thank you for your advice i eeally appiciate it
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): If you are not sure he loves you carefully ask him to answer honestly. Assure him that you can take the answer, do it right now before its too late and you end up with a severe broken heart later on when you fall more in love with him.
Maybe you said "I love you" too soon and you are scaring him away,but he feels he has to say "I love you" back because he does not want to lose you, he might want to take things slower, which is fair, ask him, but don't get teary eyed if he is scared. Understand him and compromise.Find some middle ground. Good Luck!
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 A month's worth of time is really short for either of you to make a declaration of love, don't you think? IMO, you're both too young to be making adult-like commitments to each other. I'm not denying that it feels wonderful to you both, but there's a level of developing maturity here that you need to recognize -- you both have a lot of growing -- emotionally -- yet to do. So, when he says that he loves you, I'm sure there are strong feelings there, but he may not be at the same level of love that you feel... at least at this stage in the relationship. You shouldn't force this and let him express his affections the way he best knows how.
You need to look into this jealousy issue. There are tons of articles on the subject all over the internet. A good starting point might be here:
http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Being-Jealous
Try a broader Google search as well.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): Slow down, sweetheart. I well remember the spark and the urgency at your age, but remember that pushing him and jealousy is likely to have the opposite effect of what you want. Chill out a bit with him and enjoy his company. You don't need to rush into love.
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