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writes:I have been dating a guy for one month. I was so happy the first two weeks--it seemed like we had such a connection, and he was romantic and passionate. Now, after just a month it seems like the newness has worn off already. I feel like he is taking me for granted. I don't think I'm doing that to him--I am crazy about him. There is something wrong--I can feel it. It's like he doesn't feel anything very deep for me. I have been divorced for 4 years, and he has been divorced only 1 year. I wonder if that is the problem. Sometimes it takes a long time to really get back to normal after a divorce. Then I wonder too, if he still has feelings for his ex-wife--so he might not be able to feel anything for anyone else. I guess what I'm trying to say is I'm not feeling the love. He's not very affectionate. He does text or call me every day and we go out once or twice a week. Am I just expecting too much too soon? Do you think he will become more loving as time goes on? This is really bothering me. If he doesn't feel the same for me, then maybe it's time for me to move on.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (5 September 2009):
 I think you would be safest not to invest too much more emotion in this relationship. He's already pulling back after a short time, and that usually signals that the person is having second thoughts when they realise that the other party is seeing the relationship as as having long-term potential when all they're looking for is companionship with benefits. I wouldn't take it too personally, he sounds like maybe he just needs to feel close to someone, (contacting you every day), and you're making yourself available at the moment. If you're after something permanent I would end it now before you get really hurt, which you will if you're "crazy about him".The other possibility is that he's keen but he's just that sort of person who takes a partner for granted, and if you can't accept that, (and no one should), then again, you should move on. It could well be the reason he got divorced.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): if you feel something is off than it's off. just try not to take it personally. May be this is just how he is, you might not like it. If you need more love and he is not giving it you, it's a slight possibility that it will happen ina future.
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