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writes:ok so...been seeing this guy 4 about 9 weeks now. at 1st he was perfect! ALWAYS taking me out, inviting me over and wanting to see me. We even went abroad together a few weeks ago. now hes moved into his new house and its all gone down hill! i hardly ever see him, at 1st he said it was cause hes busy with his house but now hes done most things with his house hes not that busy but still doesnt want to see as much! hes came over my house on monday night unexpectedly to be nice and to give me a lift to work. i text him later that night to say thank you but its now wednesday and i have not heard a word from him! the longest we have ever gone without talkin is 1 day but now its been just over 2days! i asked him not so long ago if he wanted 2 be with me and he has said yes he does but all of a sudden he just seems really distant! and not wanting to see me when he can! should i just act as if i havnt noticed and back off a bit? or what? please help!!!! xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006): I dont mean any sexism or offence, but quite often women read into what men do way to much. There are times that we do things or say things and you take them far out of the context we ment them in, if a guy says you misinterpreted something you probably did misinterpret it. So if he hasn't called you, yes he could be pulling away, or he just didn't think to call you.
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reader, jabey +, writes (30 November 2006):
the thing is with men, when they have something new to occupy them, they do tend to switch off to us. Women tend to be thinking all the time whereas men tend to just concentrate on what they are doing at the time. Initially they chase and then the next level they get to is the comfort zone. He knows your there and sometimes they then tend to make less effort. You must not contact him and when he contacts you act casual like it has not bothered you. Be cool and confident. I had a funny conversation with my boyfriend of 8 months only last night. As I asked why when we dont see each other for two nights he never rings me, he laughed at this saying I text you ! us men dont need to chat and be in contact all the time like you women. Suppose that summed it up he thought everything was fine and I didnt. He is obviously very into you. Bet you you hear from him very soon. Be cool.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (30 November 2006):
 let him chase you. Just give it time and you'll find out but DON'T CALL HIM! Let him call YOU! If he doesn't call u back then move on! Guys are weird like that sometimes. Don't think that u did anything wrong if this happens. I was in ur situation. I was seeing this guy and he would only answer my calls and text messages whenever he wanted to see me, but he would never just call me to talk or to see how I was. I think he just wanted to hook up with me. He didn't answer my calls and texts for FIVE days! So I dumped him. Then he told people that he was not emotionally attracted to me and that I am needy because I would get mad at him if we didn't talk for a few days. Maybe your guy is playing hard to get? Just wait for him to call u. If 4 days go by and he still doesn't call u, then confront him!!!
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