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writes:Hello to all!I have a problem that just came up today.I run a small firm that provides language lessons and I wanted to hire a teacher.Early today,I was expecting a woman for a job interview.She came on time and when we sat to talk it is as if both of us were jolted.She is very atractive and we kept look each other in the eyes.SHe kept leaning forward and seemed as if she was really into me.We talked about the job(some part-time teaching) but we also talked about other stuff, like out interests and hobbies.She asked if I was married(I'm not) and she replied that she couldn't believe I wasn't(I told her I was 37, which I am.)Conversation was easy and flowing and lasted about 25 minutes or so. It seems she is a theater fan(as am I) and told her about an amateur production this weekend. She seemed interested but I stopped short of asking her to go with me.ANyway, she left and I said I would contact her about the work.She replies that she was happy to meet me regardless of what my decision might be.Her qualifications are quite good, and money does not seem to be very important to her, she wants to gain experience in teaching in a classroom.I let all this sink in during the afternoon, and to be truthful I really didn't know how to handle the situation.I called her in the evening to clarify something on her CV.She told me that even a few hours of teaching are Ok, and that in case, everything is cool.Then, she specifically asked if we could talk about other stuff and asked me again about the amateur theater play I had told her about.She said it sounds great, and she would like to go. I said I would call her tomorrow so as to tell her some job-related stuff.My problem is that there is a strong attraction to this woman, and she seems quite into me. I don't think she is doing it for the work, it was a bit magical when we laid eyes on each other.But, I am not sure how to proceed?She seems to want me to ask her out.What do you think?Thanks,
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2008): This is a toughy. Well, if she is qualified for the job, and everything seems in check, then perhaps giving her the job isn't a bad idea.And if you aren't in a relationship (Which I assume you aren't) and she isn't in a relationship and has not tied a knot. Perhaps you should bring her with you. Maybe offer her dinner afterwards and say its to talk more about work. And just get to know a little more about her. And if you feel really comfortable then ask her on an "official" date.- The man
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reader, rproctor  +, writes (10 September 2008):
Well, first I would suspect she is up to the flirting to secure the job. Women can be deceiving. If she was really determined to get this job, she would maybe even sleep with you if it meant that she would get the job.She could just fancy you thought.But, do you want to date someone you work professionally with? Do you think it would be professional to date your employee? Probably not.In my opinion you need to do one or the other. Either give her the job and DONT date her. Or, decline her the job and ask for a date. But dating an employee will only lead to problems. There are other women out there mate, dont get yourself into this trap.
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