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writes:Well this is my first post here so I am not sure how I should ask this and I also know peoples opinions differ but what I am wanting to ask is how would I go about asking my bf how he would feel if I said I wanted a baby.....weve only been together 6 months but it feels like weve known each other our whole lives...I love him to death and want to marry him one day...I dont want people saying oh you havent been together long enough, youre just going to scare him away, blah blah blah...just needing some opinions on how I would approach him about it or if I should wait longer...Im 21, been living on my own since i was 18, and Im not trying to toot my own horn as theyd say but I think I am more mature then most 21 year old girls my age because Ive been through so much more then most people my age should even have to go through....emotionally I am ready and I think I am financially stable to be able to support a child because we both work very hard and make decent money....any advice would be appreciated...thank you
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (14 August 2009):
You need to get into this with him before you get anymore involved than you already are. He may want a baby too but 6 months isn't really long enough to say I want to be bothered with you for the rest of my life. Ask him how would he feel about having a child with you and then go from there I don't think you want to scare him off so take it slow and don't rush it if it is meant to happen it will naturally....
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (14 August 2009):
I would probably bring up the topic of babies and marriage in a general sort of way with him first, just to get a clue to his feelings on the topic. Maybe you could just ask him one day if he wants to have children, and generally, most people who do want kids yet arent quite ready at the moment will say something like 'yeah i do but thats a long time away yet'. And if he happens to be ready then he will probably say so.
You will also need to find out if he believes in marriage first before babies becdause this is quite common and if thats what he believes in then you will need to respect that.
Once you have brought the topic up in a general sort of way you could go further and tell him how you feel and so on. Depending on his reaction though.
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