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*sklily101
writes:Awhile ago me and this guy went out. A few weeks later I broke up with him, because I wasnt really feeling it anymore. About a month later, he asked me out again. I said yes,because i thought i liked him again. We went out for about three days. Again, I lost the feeling. Three months later, I asked him out again, realizing that I was lovesick and he was my only antidote. We went out for a good four and a quarter months. I was hearing rumors that he was spreading rumors about me. i got upset and he started talking bad about my best friend. I broke up with him. We then worked it out, and i decided it was his last chance. He asked me out, once again, and i had to say yes. It was all going perfect. Everyone said we were the perfect couple ever. I loved him. I wanted to be with him every second of every day. One day, he came up to me in the middle of our college class, and broke up with me. i was devestated. crushed. lonely. abandoned. you get the point. as time went on i told everyone i had moved on; he moved to kentucky. he told my friends that he had two girlfriends and they were doing things to him all at one time. i love him. i cant get over him. WHAT DO I DO??!?!
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (17 October 2010):
You move on and learn from this relationship, like Ven said. In particular, next time around you might not want to break up so much. You kept thinking you felt something for him, then losing the feeling and breaking up. When you're with someone, you won't always feel the feeling as strongly all the time, and instead of jumping to breaking up immediately, you should take some time to reflect, or just time to grow back. Because not all guys will ask you out again or give you a second, third, etc chance after getting dumped.
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reader, Ven +, writes (17 October 2010):
Don't beat yourself up. You are a perfectly loveable woman who got in and out of a relationship that didn't work.
Don't spend time beating him up. He is gone, and you mentally hating on him will only hurt you.
Realize it didn't work, it is over, and move on. It takes time, so don't get more depressed thinking something is wrong with you just because you aren't getting over him fast enough.
The best things you can do are:
- Work on yourself. Get in shape, get some fun hobbies, go after some wild dream you have always had but never attempted.
- Try your best to learn from the situation. You may not have made any mistakes, but being critical of yourself keeps you from blaming others and never growing as a person.
Best of luck Sweetheart.
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