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writes:Hi,I have been seeing this man who is roughly the same age as me (two years difference in age - he is 25, I'm 23) for a couple months now, after speaking to him for a month via emails and texts. He is due to come back from a weeks' holiday abroad tomorrow so I have not spoken to him at all over the last week.We met up a few days before he went away and during that night, he arranged to see me again the weekend after he comes back from holiday (thats this weekend thats coming up) and even sent me a text the next day to say he had booked the hotel for our night out together for that weekend.However, I remembered earlier today that during the first month when we were emailing, he had told me he had pre-booked tickets for a football match that is happening this weekend. He has not mentioned it since we started meeting up two months ago and he has not mentioned it since telling me the hotel was booked for the weekend. As he is currently away on holiday, I can't ask him about it. Up until now, I have had no reason to doubt him - he was the one that arranged our first meeting and all other meetings after that and we have been texting each other constantly every day, even when we are both at work. He has told me lots about himself, all of which I know is true, as he also added me as a friend on facebook and have seen his photos so I know he is telling the truth. He also drives an hour from his place to mine to pick me up/take me home after we meet up. He is always saying he hopes i have a good day and asking what i'm up to and remembers everything I say to him.To meet him this weekend, I am getting the train and travelling an hour to the place we are meeting. I am just wondering if he has either 'forgotten' about this football match and has remembered on holiday, so will tell me when he gets back that he can't meet me this weekend, or if he didn't forget about the football but has told his mates he's not going so he can meet me (he has told me his mates know about me and that he has only told them good things about me, and they sure would know about me now anyway as I am on his facebook profile), or if he hasn't forgotten about the football at all (and never did) and is not going to show up on Saturday. He did say before he went away that he wouldn't be able to text me while he was on holiday and I have not heard from him the whole week he has been away. I texted him early in the morning the day he was due to go to say i hope he has a good holiday and I got a reply - his texts are very long and always have been. I am wondering whether I should mention about the football match if he still doesn't mention it tomorrow/Friday - I'm not sure exactly what time he is due to be home from holiday tomorrow so I may not hear from him until Friday. We did not arrange a time to meet on Saturday. If he was not trustworthy, surely he wouldn't let me see his facebook profile.Opinions on this situation would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 November 2011):
 Maybe it's late for answering and by now you'll already have got the update, anyway that's what I think :
chill. You must be a very anxious type. So far he has acted unreaproachably at times so let's not start suspecting evil plots or amnesia. Let's give him the benefit of doubt.
Option A : he remembers perfectly the football game but he decided that spending the night with a lovely young lady is more enticing and has disposed of his tickets giving them to some friend or selling etc.
Option B : He DID forget about the game ( guys can be so diorganized and absent minded ) and he COULD reschedule last minute , since the game was a previous committment. Disappointing but not infuriating, if he is sorry and apologetic no need to tell him off, it was a bona fide misshap.
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