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writes:i need some help, i posted on here before about this but here i go again!! I am 20, a student nurse in 1st year at uni and i donot want to do this any longer. i don't know why, i just don't want to continue to do this, or be a nurse, which is making me very unhappy. my dad has always pushed me into this, and i guess he's pushed me too far. but.. the thing is.. he is being so controlling. i have applied to join the police, which is what i have always wanted but have never 'been allowed' now i just think you know what this is my life, but my dad has gone nuts. He says he wont allow this to happen, he is being cruel to be kind and if i do this i have to move out of home. this is 100% what i want to do, and he is being so horrible. i said to him it's my life and he said no it isn't.. well.. who's life is it, if it's not mine?! i am so frustrated, all i ever did was do nursing to please him and keep him off my back, with no thanks. calling me stupid, thick and bringing me down, now i've had it. i just lost my gran a few months ago, she always helped and tried to talk to him. i feel like i am being controlled, i could scream with him. what can i do to make him realise? sorry if this seems jumbled.. am just going on cause i'm so angry!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Anonymous19  +, writes (31 May 2009):
Hi i had/have the same problem. My mom wanted me to take subjects i didnt want and i had to take em. Now i cant do anything in science coz i dont have the subject. I wanted to change but my mom freaked out. Now im studying and those subjects have no purpose. I dont know how im gona get into uni without science.You have to do something you feel in your heart. I think you should tell your dad exactly how you feel even though he dont approve he will come around to the idea and be proud of you coz if you do things behind his back it wont work out so if you tell him you will be at peace of mind knowing that you have informed him. Please follow your dreams!
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reader, Tarianna  +, writes (31 May 2009):
 Hello!!!...If you dont want to be a nurse...then dont be...yeah..you might want to please your dad...but it makes no sense goign into a career that every morning you wake up and realise thats what you have to do and you're heartfalls and so does your smile is pointless...do what you want...tell your father if he really cares about you...he'll let you do what makes you happy and not whats goign to probably ruin your relationship with him...you're 20 years old for crying out loud....tell him to ease up and let you make your own decisions..
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reader, amber_schram  +, writes (31 May 2009):
 if u dont want ta b a nurse u dont have ta! ur n control of ur own life! its stupid if he kicks u out cause u don wanna live his life! u should get ur own place or find a roommate if money is tight or another family member ta live with..if he don like it then ooh well y have a job u don like for soneone else!!?but yeah goodluck!
xo-amber
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