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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I signed up at this dating/adult site, a few months ago, out of curiousity and just to have a little fun. I messaged this guy, who's profile had a lot of similarities with my own, interests, down to even the same favorite books, quotes and songs. I just wanted a decent conversation. He messaged me back, and we had been talking every day just about, enjoying each other's messages. He's intelligent, keeps me laughing, and he lingers in my day to day. We have a lot in common. It's not just some sex thing (though we've had our flirtations) but just every day things, our thoughts, interests, desires, problems, etc.--without of course giving out information. I like this guy a lot, and though I haven't met him face to face (he's on the West Coast, and I'm on the East coast, we take current pictures) I probably would (with proper safety precautions) if he was closer. The thing is he has a girlfriend and I'm dating someone. I think we both see distance as a buffer for how we may feel, so we feel, like, hey, this can't go anywhere, how is it a threat? Then today, out of no where, he messaged me this morning like normal. When I replied to his message, I discovered I was blocked. he didn't remove me from his friends list, but I'm blocked. Now I'm sure you maybe thinking, "that guy's a jerk, are you insane" but I'm not going to rule that yet. I'm not upset, but I thought it was odd. Do you think his girlfriend found out we were messaging frequently? Are we cyber-cheating?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): Yes, you are cyber flirting and most likely this guy had just interest in you online and nothing more. He most likely blocked you because his girlfriend found out and he did not want her to email you or you her. Don't make women look bad calling someone sweetheart & hun is not a good thing when there is another party involved. Normally, also you only get one side of the relationship so it is bad to give advice. I do no think that much of either one of you both of you should have come clean and told the others you both were with. You should not flirt if you are with someone and they have no clue you are cyber flirting. That just is WRONG GIRL! You should just talk to the guy normal until you make sure he not one anyone and you are not either many of these men lie and say they have x's when in fact the spouse has not clue their guys are flirting with other women pretending to be single when they sleep in the same bed every night. I would for sure call it cyber cheating behind the boyfriends/girlfriends back. Don't be dumb he lied to you and just like the way you were a big flirt and maybe a tease at the time and was worried his other would find out how you been talking. You could be a homewrecker to some family and friends
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reader, eddie  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 Yes, your cheating...."he lingers in my day to day..though we've had our flirtations..I like this guy a lot..I think we both see distance as a buffer for how we feel..do you think his girlfriend found out we were messaging frequently".......Do those quotes answer your question. If his girlfriend did find out, she had reason to be upset. You're both focusing on people other that your partners.
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reader, eddie +, writes (8 January 2009):
Yes, your cheating...."he lingers in my day to day..though we've had our flirtations..I like this guy a lot..I think we both see distance as a buffer for how we feel..do you think his girlfriend found out we were messaging frequently".......Do those quotes answer your question. If his girlfriend did find out, she had reason to be upset. You're bothbothing focusing on peoiple other thatn your partners.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2009): well i would have said no you wasnt cheating by just talking and light flirting,but then you said its because you live far apart why things are the way they are,so now yes you were cheating as you was both thinking on the same level,had you have lived closer you would have certainly ended up sleeping with each other as its what you both wanted.but no real harm done here as there was no actual bodly contact,forget about this guy and try to sort out what you got already dont throw it away if its still good
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