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writes:Hi Creative Cupiders,My fella and I are planning on getting married sometime in the next year (hooray!)... here's the issue: we met when I made an impromptu move to the West coast (without the intention of staying, but love happens where/when love happens). We've been living here for 3.5 years, but my (somewhat enormous) family and all of my friends still live on the opposite side of the country. I haven't made many friends here on the West coast, but all of his friends and family are out here. I definitely have more people on my side of the invite list than his, but I don't want to be unfair or anything and just say "haha, I win". It's both of our wedding, and I want both of us to be happy and not be bumming out.My family is completely broke (known, accepted, but still loved by all), but we also don't want to have to fly his family and friends to the East coast... we just want to have a great, fun wedding, not to go into debt!So, I turn to you Cupiders for creative solutions. Two weddings (gahhh!! Sounds expensive...?), two big parties and we just sign a marriage license wherever? I'd really, really love to have a wedding with everyone attending, but I just don't know how it can happen! I need creative ideas!Thanks, brainstormers.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (22 January 2009):
TasteofIndia is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you guys for your suggestions... the only problem with having a wedding some place in the middle of the US (Nebraska? Kansas?... oh my...), would be then EVERYONE would have to buy plane tickets! I wouldn't feel right about that! The fiancé isn't against having the wedding on the East Coast, but I can tell that he kind of wants to want all of his guy friends around to celebrate with us. Maybe I'll get them to throw him a really great bachelors party or weekend to Vegas or something (I'll tell them they can pay! We'll see how that plan goes...) I don't want him to be bummed out!
I thiiink (not set in stone yet) we may just throw an awesome "We're getting married, hooray!! party". A barbeque, dish to pass, a keg, of course for the guys (then I can keep the East Coast wedding a little classier). with all of his friends on the West Coast and anybody who can make it to the East Coast, hooray! His family can definitely afford the trip... so they won't miss out on the official wedding.
I spent most of today brainstorming, and you guys helped alot!! Thanks ladies!
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (21 January 2009):
 Where does your fiance want to have the wedding? Would he mind going to the east coast since your family doesn't have much money and you have A LOT of members that would need to travel? I don't think it would be like you winning, just coming together on an idea that makes sense. Or you could meet in the middle of the country, lol. So both families travel the same amount. I would think 2 weddings would be insanely expensive. Unless it were two small parties. Hmm, you are in a pickle. Where have you always wanted to get married? Like don't think about families or money for a second, just your dream place? Maybe you can get married here and the members who can afford or want to travel can, and the ones who can't you can have parties and celebrate with them later. I don't know. It is a tough question. Hopefully one of my ideas helped you out a little.
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reader, Lucyx  +, writes (21 January 2009):
 Heyaah,
Well you could have one in the middle of where both of your parents live,so both parents have to travel the same amount.
Or you both could decide a place tugever, somewhere that both parents would be able to afford to get there.
Have A Lovely Wedding and Take Care x
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