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writes:well, i'm just wondering if i'm crazy... there's this boy named jonathan. and i'm crazy in love with him. we havn't had sex because he thinks theres more to love than sex. i've given him aq blow job. on my own person opinion. his brother is a guy named victor... and i met him before jonathan. i fell so in love with him it's hard to explain. he was perfect. and i think he still is. he has a girlfriend. and he says he loves her...sometimes jonathan can be a prick. but i don't care.i'm sort of still hooked on victor.what can i do to get over jonathan?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): Yes you are crazy if you think that you love any of these guys. You just fancy them. Dump Johnathan because he's a prick, forget about his brother because he has a girlfriend. In fact forget about boys altogether. You fall in love too easily, and this could cause you pain. Go out with your girlfriends, meet new people and develop some interests that don't centre around men. You will fall out of love as easy as you fell into love and soon you will be as right as rain.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 July 2008):
 So you love both brothers? And one is a jerk and doesn't think that oral sex is sex, and the other has a girlfriend?
I think the best thing for you to do to get over the one brother is to volunteer, find a senior citizens center or if you can drive, meals on wheels or if you have any strength in your arms and legs, habitat for humanity. There are probably shelters for animals near you, and could use a young woman with a great deal of energy and time to help them.
Seriously, I would take two, three, at least five steps back from both of them and give myself some time to sort it out. What's the rush? What's the panic? There is no crisis, from what you've told us here. So, in the interests of your own mental health, give yourself some time out from both of them. You have many more years ahead of you to sort this out. And if years seems too long a time frame, think in terms of months.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): you have to consider Victor may not feel the same about you and if you break up with Jonathan you may very much so regret it if Victor rejects you which is a high chance as he 'loves' his girlfriend you do not mention him giving you any signs at al! Think carfully before acting,
Cheesy A xox
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (15 July 2008):
 You can't be in love with two people. It's impossible. If you say you are, you're lying to yourself.
Now I don't understand your question. You want to get over Jonathan, your boyfriend, so you can stay with Victor, his brother who has a girlfriend and has told you he loves her?
I think the question here was "How I get over Victor?". Now if this is the real question, then you have to realize that he doesn't love you back and that he loves his girlfriend. This should deter your hopes on getting him.
Now, after this you have to realize you aren't in love with two people and if you say that you're "crazy in love with Jonathan", then choose Jonathan. And Jonathan has a big, good aspect on him: he wants you for who you are instead of your body. You say he's kind of a prick yet you said that you don't care, so really don't pay any attention to this aspect.
The most important thing here that you have to realize is that you're with Jonathan and not with Victor and there is a reason: Because Victor doesn't want to be with you and Jonathan DOES. Realize Victor loves his girlfriend and not you and realize that Jonathan loves you and not your body. And finaly, realize what you're doing and how it can affect your relationship.
But if your question was really the one that was posted originally, then I don't know if you really deserve Jonathan.
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