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writes:I live in Mexico and went out with a lady, who is almost 50 and works in the family business which is going down the old drain by the way. I have been going with her for four years. The first breakup was after 1 1/2 years, and came out of the blue. I got back with her by giving her a $1,000 USD ring and use of a small car I bought. This went on for another 1 1/2 years, at which time she broke up again. Just before the breakup she said that 'a good boyfriend' would give her $5,000 USD to help the struggling business. When I refused she broke up again. This time it cost me $2,000 USD, plus a weekly 'salary' of $70 USD, plus a $700 necklace, plus paying her cell plan, plus deposit on a house, plus doctor's bills, and so on, with her plying very hard to get (refusing the necklace at first). When I reduced the 'salary' to $50 USD and started taking back the car, there was a lot of trouble, with her complaining of constant headaches, and so on. Finally she broke up on xmas this year because she was getting bored and I was the cause of the constant headaches. She also (its probably a lie but) mentioned a new man in her life. She mentioned several things that "he was going to pay for", like a trip to New York, and helping the family, and she was fed up with coming to my place to pick up her car. Her breakups always come out of the blue after normal activities, and in some way she mentions what she wants. I guess she is a merciless gold digger, or is there any other explanation ? She also claims to only be able to be with men two or three dates a week, and she never sleeps overnight but lives with her mother. She called me a boyfriend, but I feel I just go on dates and it never got beyond that. She is also very seductive and appealing when she gets some nice lump sum. My other question would be that I suspect her stories are lies to reduce the time she sees me. She also claims she hates sex and cannot bear to be touched too much.This time too she seems to have finally moved on, but I think its because she has a new source of cash, which is a settlement from a very rich husband who finally wants a divorce. i would ad that she has a stunning body with the best pair of breasts I have ever come across, except she seems to have the key to my castle in some way. its also been a rollercoaster ride, and she never thanks me for anything she gets, although at the start of the relationship she used to even thank me for the sex ! Should i try and get back with her again. I have met her twice and she seems to 'hold open the door' somewhat by saying that if she got back with me, she would feel 'traitorous' to the new boy friend. The reason I feel there is no boyfriend is that she was looking dreadful on Friday when he was supposed to be picking her up, and it was obvious she was in a bad state, which would noit be true if she had a rich new boyfriend. Also, is this a long drawn out ploy to get me back into the picture if the settlement doesn't come through ? My friend says I am totally stupid and this woman is just in it with me for the money and benefits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): My question is why do you care if this woman is with you and why are you willing to have this relationship with her?
Why do you really want a relationship with her? It seems like it's about nothing more than a power struggle on your part mostly. You're not having a relationship, you're playing games with yourself. This relationship is a testimony to stupidity and dysfunction.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Lol, of course she would still be with you if you bought her a convertible. However, you say she gets bored easily with her toys, so she's going to be moving on to the next high priced item she wants. This isn't a ploy to get you to pay for her bankrupt business, this is you being her sugardaddy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontennistar88 hit the nail on the head with the sexless escort comment. Right at the beginning she only wanted to go out on the sexless dates because she claimed she had 'problems' with the sexual side, but I insisted on the sex. She then told me after 6 months or so that she had been faking her orgasms, and the sex became very quick with her saying she always 'finished' real fast and didn't like me continuing sex after that. I don't feel I even know who she is after the four years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just would like to add an update.
I also paid for gas for the car. Plus, she never wanted to do any activity with me other than going to the movies, and restaurants, and walking around. She was also alway in a hurry to leave and get home by 10:00 pm 'to be with her poor mother who was all by herself'. Then, she also claimed that she had to spend Sunday hand washing her bras and panties.
I also took her to Miami for a week in December and bought her $400 worth of clothes, digital camera, and a special pair of red shoes, and she seemed quite happy with me, then the broke up occurred at the end of that very month. Since the break-up I have dated a nice attractive professional woman who likes me very much and she even pays for her own coffee. Its also much more interesting with her. She is younger too, but a little on the plump side. Plus I have found several other women who are interested in me, not my stuff, and pay their own way somewhat.
i noticed also with the other one, she always gave much more time whenever I 'helped her out' more, plus she always used to hang out every night with this creepy bosom buddy of hers who looks somewhat mannish and seems to relate to her in a very possesive way, so I am wondering if they are lesbians or bisexuals, that would fit in with her behaviour. Also am I being set up for a bigger sting to recue their business ? or is she just a very disturbed person or has she finally found someone with some really big bucks, or got the settlement with the husband ? She is not very atractive by the way and looks older than her 50 years with a very lined face, maybbe looks about 53 ? but she has got a gorgeous upper body which is always well on display with low cut blouses. Her brother even told me she has a 'nocturnal double life going to the casinos with amigos'.
On the other hand she was always talking about moving in with me, but it never quite happened. Plus, she would only call me up when she needed something, never to say lets do this or that together, but I would find she had gone places with other people. Her time with me was seemingly measured out. She also never phone up and didn't like calls in between dates, it was like she ceased to exist, and she got really annoyed when she had to keep coming to my place of business to pick up the car for the night for her own use. (I own a business), because she used to use the car for her own activites. I also reduced her 'salary', which also didn't go down well.
She also is uneducated and the dates are rather boring for me, and for her i would say, except when I took her shopping for her clothes. I think she thinks that the sex part which she never liked was her 'payment' because afterwards she wanted to up and do something else or get he hell out. She also resented cooking a meal, always wanted to eat out. She was also easily bored with her new toys. For example, she was asking me to buy a covertible. So my question is would she still have been with me if I had bought her a convertible ?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (3 February 2011):
Your friends are absolutely right!
Are you serious? It's obvious that everyone can tell this woman is a gold digger perhaps a con artist, or a sexless escort. She's a high priced woman, who will milk you for every nickel and dime you got. Your guy's apparent relationship history shows that if you don't pay up or give her what she wants then she's hitting the pavement to find a man who will. How much is it going to take to see that she wants you for your money and not for who you are? A negative bank account and $80,00 worth of debt?
Look at the writing on the wall.
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