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writes:So I have a rather weird question about my penis.I am bisexual and I had a few male sexual partners before in my life. I am 16 and now I have a boyfriend and we just started getting into sexual action as of late.Most of the sexual partners I had and my boyfriend especially seem to have erections right when we get to just touching the penis or even just kissing and making out. Meanwhile my penis is just there lying down and in the best case scenario it only gets halfway. I have about 5 and a half inches so it's doesn't happen because it's too big or anything like that, like I have been told before by a partner.I can only get it full hard after awkwardly jerking off for a while in front of them or when I get a blowjob or when things get really intense. I am getting worried and embarrassed and it kind of hurts my already low self-esteem. Is there any solution or advice people around here know of?Thank you all very much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2016): It is possible you are not that attracted to your partners. It could be because of the dichotomy of being bi sexual, perhaps, or it could be a purely physical/emotional thing. I've been in relationships where at the time I thought I was in love yet was not super into the sex. In hindsight, I now know for a fact it had to do with not being that attracted to the person. Both physically and mentally. I am now with someone who I am incredibly attracted to, we get turned on by just making eye contact, we cannot keep our hands off each other and we often have intense and passionate sex five times a day. I've been where you are and it had nothing to do with me, specifically. It just had to do with a lack of chemistry between me and that person. Just something to think about. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2016): You're only sixteen and you're worrying too much. You can overthink things so much; until you paint yourself into a corner. Don't compare yourself to other guys, you're you.
If you masturbate a lot, maybe you should cut-down a bit.
You spend a lot of time noticing the differences between what happens to you and what happens to other guys; when your mind should be on pleasing your partner. Take your mind off what's not perfect about yourself, and your self-esteem will rise automatically. You're at the age when you see everything wrong with yourself, and blow it all out of proportion.
Don't be a drama-queen. You're young and still growing.
Your body is still in stages of growth and development.
You will not be the same as you are now a year from now.
Everyone grows and matures at different rates and intervals.
Your erections are affected by what's going on in your head.
Stay away from drugs or under-aged drinking. Eat healthy and exercise.
Chill-out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2016): It's me the asker.For the anonymous answer : Thank you for calming me down, he doesn't get mad about it and he thinks it's completly ok and doesn't get dissapointed or anything of thing sort. He is actually supporting and trying to help me. But the worrying comes from my side, I am kinda scared it will get worse in the future. Although I don't believe it's erectile dysfunction or anything of this sort since when I do pleasure myself I get fully erect in a matter of seconds. I guess you are right maybe I really am more of a 'hands on' type of person. Thank you! For "Andie's Thoughts":Most of them are just a tad bit older than me, but my boyfriend is my age. With the past partners I used condoms only, but with my boyfriend, since we both never had it without a condom, and both got checked for std and got a positive answer, we go at it without condoms. We get checked regularly so there is nothing to worry since we are currently exclusive. I hope it does improve over time! And I might just ask my doctor next time I see him about it (Even though it's quite embarrassing haha). Thank you all for the advice and for the time you gave to answer me and help! I genuinely appreciate it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2016): Im a straight female but can tell you right off batt not to worry about it. I had a lover who was same, he didnt get full erections during kissing or touching but only after oral or handjob. Dont make a big deal out of it, if youre lover was into you theyd realize you were a more 'hands on' lover and its even more exciting for them to want to please you.
Dont worry about it! Good luck and stay safe too.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (4 August 2016):
 You always both use condoms, yes?
You're very young - how old are these partners? Everyone develops at different rates, so it may just be something that improves over time. Please see your doctor, if you're worried.
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