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writes: I have started dating a guy who is going to be moving away to another city in 3 months because of a job offer. (him not moving is not an option)We have been dating for a month and I am attracted to him and he is attracted to me but I am afraid of getting hurt. All my friends say enjoy it while it lasts, have fun, but for me this is no fun. I am stressing about it constantly.I haven't slept with him yet and I know that if I do I'll be all warm and fuzzy and get attached. We are talking about this and he says he isn't ruling out a long distance relationship but realistically 3 months is not long enough to make a commitment to someone. My heart wants to fall for him, my mind says keep away and I can't decide. Should I stop seeing him or keep dating him?PS: My previous relationship ended because the guy moved away to another country right when I was falling for him.. so I know that it hurts. I didn't see that one coming but this time I know in advance that the guy will move.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (10 March 2006):
 Just like the other two agony aunts I think you should chill and take it easy, there is no need to sleep with him and this would be the mistake you already see it to be.
Keep in touch with him and stay as friends not as a couple this way you are free to date others as is he.
If your relationship is meant to be, then distance and time will do it no harm, so stay friends and see what develops.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (10 March 2006):
I too know how hard it is to care deeply for somoene who lives so far away. My advice to you is that, since you fear so much geting attached and then loosing him, is to stay friends with him- good friends and keep in contact. And then from then you can decide whether or not a long distance relationship is something u want to tyr and perhaps in the future you 2 could be livving close together again, like the same city/town. That way you aren't comiting yourself nad seting your brain t be in love and in a relationship, you are leting it just be a close friendship so it should be easier to deal with.
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reader, Jammy2006 +, writes (10 March 2006):
 Relax and definately dont sleep with him yet! If you do and it falls apart you will be left feeling devastated and used. If this relationship is meant to be it wont go sour no matter what town or even country he is in! He can always come and visit you and if you get very serious you can always get a place together in the future but just see if its a strong relationship before making any rash decisions give it time and see how things develop. Good luck!
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