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anonymous
writes:Ok me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 years and it's been great til yesterday.we have sex almost everyday and her vagina is tight and hugs my penis and I can feel her uterus when I go deep until yesterday cause usually I have to go slow when going in her vagina because of the tightness but yesterday my penis went straight in without the hesitation I tried going in circles because I thought that was weird and her vagina was wider then it usually is ,so I tried to go deep as I could but could not hit her uterus like I usually do felt like there was more space to I was turned off and my penis became soft because I'm use to it fitting my penis just right I couldn't sleep the whole night today I tried it again and it felt the same way does mean my girlfriend cheated on me with a guy with a larger penis I need to no I've been stressing all day at work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThinks everyone for the advice I think it really helped me??
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (9 May 2013):
 Have a read of this article - it should help you.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201109/the-rare-truth-about-tight-and-loose-women
The article says that as women get older they gradually get a little (not a lot mind you) looser so if you are harking back to when you were having sex aged 17 and she was super tight, that was because she was a teenager and most likely a bit tense and nervous.
The article also says that if a woman feels particularly tight it is because she is not aroused enough and isnt relaxed, so perhaps for all these years your girlfriend hasnt been totally turned on or relaxed.
This idea of hitting the uterus is utter nonsense as well, the vagina is elastic and can contract and expand - but the vagina cannot get longer or shorter! The length of her vagina will be the same as it was 8 years ago, and it will be the same again in another 8 years time. If you were not hitting her uterus when you last had sex yet you normally do, then either your penis has shrunk or you were in a slightly different position to normal.
Cheating on you cannot affect the size of her vagina, even after childbirth most women's vaginas will go back to normal size so a large penis is not going to change anything down there. Only if you give birth to multiple children and if you are older then you risk 'loosening' the vagina, and that clearly is not the case so I think most of this is in your head.
Stop being so immature, be damn grateful that you have a girlfriend who will have sex with you daily after 8 years (Most couples after being together that long would be lucky to be having sex once a month!) and enjoy sex regardless of what you think you are 'hitting' in there. You should love this girl, and you should love that she is turned on and enjoying sex with you - that should not be a turn off and make you go off sex.
Get a grip, grow up and forget about it - she is not cheating, probably just more turned on than usual.
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reader, fzald +, writes (9 May 2013):
Having sex with a man with a bigger penis does not stretch the vagina to the point where it doesn't spring back. Think about it - women deliver babies through the vagina and afterwards still have satisfying sex and have a tight vagina. The vagina is designed with natural elasticity that refreshes itself.
On top of that, you said this seems sudden - even if she was cheating (which I don't think she is!!) it wouldn't change that quickly. Over many, many years of sex sometimes the vagina loosens up a bit, but it's usually so gradual that it's not noticeable over time.
As women get aroused the vagina can widen up a bit and also more natural lube can be secreted, which may be why it felt "easier" for you to go in.
Calm down, dude. I don't think you have anything to worry about. If it's really bothering you, just point it out to her. But, DO NOT accuse her of cheating, just simply tell her what you observed and see what she says.
FYI, there's plastic surgery that women can have done to "retighten" the vagina. Sometimes, even with the natural elasticity, after having four or five kids and after 20+ years of sex, the vagina does slacken up a bit. A little work with the plastic surgeon and the vagina is as tight and firm as it was when the girl was 18. ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPrior to this event I don't believe she was more turned on because she felt asleep on me the night before and tried to do it the night of I had to push the issue.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 May 2013):
 More likely she was just more turned on. A large penis doesnt widen the vagina you see. She could have sex with a man with a large penis and her vagina wouldnt change. After all, babies can come out of there...amd the women can still have enjoyable sex after. I think maybe you should talk to your gf about this without any accusations.
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