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writes:I have a question. I have had a past that is bugging the heck out of me. What should I do to like keep my mind off of things and just face the fact what i did was wrong? I am 17 soon and around the age 13-15 when i was in the middle of just getting to know about sex and puberty. i humped a friend and i was basically naked on top of him. we masturbated together and played with eachother. i didnt have sex with him becuase that would be crossing my man hood side. but i am just wondering. what should i do about this? how can i get it out of my head? was this something that could make me gay? I am a bit confused. please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Just a reply to mmm3, I am straight and married and happy as are many of my gay married friends! Do you think your homosexual friends aren't as happy as your married friends because of the pressure from society (YOU and people like you) to be normal and to love each other like brothers and hide their true feelings for each other because society doesn't really like it?
Also you are right(ish) homosexuality hasn't been proved by science, God also hasn't been proven by science, I have met gay people but never met God, does this mean he doesn't exist?
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reader, SlackersACE1  +, writes (11 March 2009):
Doesn't SOUND like you really are, just a little wild. Just don't over think it. Pueberty makes you do things one minute you didn't like the idea of the next. Its probably just a one time thing.if not, well there you go. At least you found out with a friend and not someone who'll take advantage of you. The past is just that. Long as noone was physically or emotionally hurt, you'll be fine either way. And apparently some ladies are into that. So.. you may have something there bro. Wish you well, gay, straight or both.
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (10 March 2009):
 I don't think that makes you gay either. Do you find guys sexually attractive, and do you fantasize doing or getting done by a guy. If yes, then you're gay.
My first kiss was with a girl. She had experienced her first kiss and I wanted to know how to kiss. Instead of her telling me, she showed me. I'm not gay, it's just something I did when I was a teenager.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): As the others before me said, it doesn't mean your gay. It's a lot of fun experimenting and there's nothing wrong with something being a little dirty. I dated a man who was attracted to other men but would get just as "happy" to see me. But I liked the aspect that he liked other men.
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reader, mmm3 +, writes (10 March 2009):
People put too much weight on what you "fancy." Just realize that sex is 99% in the mind. If you fantasize about it, you will do it.The trick is controlling your mind. Love is a decision. Sex is only a symbol of love, it is not love. You can love the same sex and not have sex with them. You can have sex with the opposite sex and not love them.There is deep brotherly love, and there is love that has sex as a frosting on it. That is the best. Love is a choice. It really is your choice. Science has not proven homosexuality. People don't want to hear that, however, because it puts the responsibility back on them.It is not too late for you to really think about what you are doing and decide what you want in life. I have had many gay friends that were guys and not one of them are as happy as the happily married couples that I know.See a psychologist. Look in your heart. Look at relationships that you might want to have something similar.Be careful, the more you do something, the harder it is to stop, it is an addiction.
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reader, cella  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 hi there.well you were very young at that time and hormonal and probably just experementing at the time.Do you fantasise now about the opposit sex?? if you do then most likely your gay....but if you dont and would never dream of doing that again tnen its very doubtfull! hope it helped.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (10 March 2009):
Yes it means you could be gay, but then again you might not be.
Do you fancy boys and not girls? Do you fancy boys and girls? Do you just fancy girls?
There is nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality, it's fairly normal to experiment. Do what feels right to you, because your happiness is what matters, whether you are Gay, Bi, straight or any other label you want to give yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): I dont believe that makes you gay. At that age teens like to experiment to see what i like. i have humped alot of girls. But im not gay. I love men. But if you have been with girls and dont like it. then maybe you are gay
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