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writes: 8 months back , I dumped my girlfriend with whom I had spent 3 years . I had no reason to dump her except I was feeling bored in that relationship . She tried for next one month to bring me back into her life but I didn’t move an inch and then she stopped contacting me.After going out with different girls on date during last eight months, I realized my blunder. And three weeks back, I stepped into her apartment, asking for forgiveness and she did forgive me. But now she's treating me like a shit, asking me to clean her apartment , make food for her , do dish washing when I come back tired from office. When I kiss her on lips, she doesn't show any emotions and gives me some other work to complete. Will she keep on treating me like this forever? Or these are initial days and after sometimes her resentment will come to an end and I should keep my ego a side ? I love her like crazy and would be obliged if you people guide me on my future course of action. Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2011): It sounds to me as though she probably held some resentment for abandoning her. You dont know what she was going through during the times you guys broke. Plus the fact taht she tried so hard to win you back. It really hurt her. I think she really cares about you and she's probably treating you this way out of resentment.
Maybe she's grown wiser about your relationship and she feel as though, you would leave her again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2011): If you were a girl and she was a guy then the answers here would probably be different. People would be saying things more like "He is wrong and abusive to you. You were broken up and you had the right to date other people because neither of you knew that you would be getting back together. He is not mature enough to handle it and I don't think he is ready to be in a relationship with you again."
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 October 2011):
 GAWD she TOOK YOU BACK?!?!?! WOW! lucky guy...
but yeah she doesn't trust you (can you blame her?) to stay with her so it's a test...
so you go to her and you say
"yep i was a JERK. I was WRONG and I am SORRY... can you give me an idea of how long I'm going to be on punishment???"
if she is aware she is doing it, well then you've opened the lines of communication for a discussion on this...
if she is NOT aware she is doing it... maybe she will see it and you can talk about it further.
Personally, I'd have laughed in your face... you snooze you lose...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 October 2011):
 To be honest, she is punishing you for dumping her in the first place. So where is the love?
Why are you still there if she treats you like crap?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2011): If you were a girl and she was a guy then the answers here would probably be different. People would be saying things more like "He is wrong and abusive to you. You were broken up and you had the right to date other people because neither of you knew that you would be getting back together. He is not mature enough to handle it and I don't think he is ready to be in a relationship with you again."
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (20 October 2011):
 Those who dig graves should be prepared to lie in them. There's a lot more going on than the dry prose you've just put down, I'm sure. Maybe she's resentful (and she has every reason to be). Maybe it's something else. The fact is you have NOT behaved like an "average guy" but more like a cad. If you really want to make this relationshup work again, you'll have to put up with this for a while at least until she feels she can start thinking of you as something other than the guy who, for no better reason than being "bored", broke up with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2011): well you were the one who dumped her and refused giver her a second chance.
you only went crawling back to her because you couldn't find anyone better.
if you had really loved her, instead of dumping her cos you were bored you would have worked things on the relationship with her. And by going back to her now you're showing you only care about yourself.
she knows this. That's why she's treating you like this, it's her way of getting even.
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