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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:This incident happened 1 month ago when I went on a trip to the Philippines. Its a community service project that I was involved in and the group has been preparing for the trip for 3 months. As we'll be staying with the villages, the leader has paired up couples for each home and I got to paired up with him. I was attracted to him during even before the trip but I was afraid to confess. Also, he's not only good-looking, intellectual but talented as well. he sings so well it just melts my heart. We were average friends and I took awhile to forget him. But the situation changed in Philippines. He took very good care of me on the FIRST day, held my hand while we walking on mud. Then it happened. At night, we were chatting and fooling around, he hugged me. The next few days he hugged him in the day when no ones around(the loving type). I kissed him and he said it was his first kiss because he haven been in a relationship before. I've been thru 2 long-dating ones. Then I asked him, so are we together? He said he DUUNO. He likes me since he met me but he's not sure now. After the conversation, I was heart-broken but i understood. I wrote him a letter stating that I'll let him think about it.We left Philippines and after a week we chatted on MSN. i asked him again and he said he needed more time and we should be friends. I pressed him further on the reasons. He said he sees differences in the way we work and etc. Honestly, I dont buy that. He dont even know me. I told him differences are pack of excuses. We kinda chilled off and since den we haven been contacting each other for 2 weeks.We meet each other in school from some distant away but we just ignored each other (i think we kinda pretend not to notice).Now, I'm so confuse. I dunno what he's thinking right now. I dun wanna pressed him for answers or make myself look desperate. But I cant help thinking of him all the time. i want ask to be friends. Sometimes i just hope none of this had happened in Philippines. I feel ashamed that I kissed him too quickly too but i couldn't control my feelings for him. What should I do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 January 2010):
If you were his first kiss, it probably is that he's really very shy and doesn't know what to do. When he was talking about differences, he was really asking for you to have patience so you could both take time getting to know each other more. You might have scared him by saying that was just 'an excuse'. I think you should try talking to him face to face again, and just tell him you'd really like to get to know him more over some time.
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