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writes: I was browsing through my dad's phone and saw a msg from a woman in our church giving him her banking details and said " i luv u c u on d....." What does that mean? Is he cheating on mom. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): A luv message sent from a churchgoer to her pastor. Yes it can and DOES happen.Realistically if the msg was written in that format,using sms short form - get real, is your dad, the good pastor, some sort of dude? Is this his normal mode of communication? I think not. Often pastors and their flock are all about 'brother' 'sister' talk.You Need to be super observant and you need to check his phone again. Your father will not be the first pastor to be doing one of his own. Yes it is wrong but it happens.If your father is having an affair think of the stink it will cause. Is he a hypocrite? Ask him outright what is happening.people/non believers will use this (if he is indeed having an affair ) to judge/mock/ridicule Christians. It means that he is persecuting Christ all over. Again.Trust me, that message is not as innocent as it is look so for now he is Guilty until proven innocent.In the end you need to safeguard the Church's reputation and if your father is doing something wrong then he needs to be brought to book. Or else the congregations faith will be lost . Not an easy burden to carry but a realistic and necessary burden. Age and youth are our saving grace. Sometimes our kids humble us and make us account for our behavior and transgressions. Good luckLoveGirl
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reader, natasia  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Ah, well, if he is a pastor it could be a completely different scenario: eg, she is in difficulty of some sort, and he is discreetly using some church funds set aside to help people out of trouble, and she sent her ac details for him to put the money in, and she said 'I love you' in the sense of being totally grateful.
I think if your dad is a pastor, I wouldn't worry - I would trust that he is doing good. Reallly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTanx ol 4 ur responses. I hop it's nothing as u'r sayin. He's a pastor & dis woman is also married. I'm tryin hard to let it go but it's not easy.
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reader, natasia +, writes (27 October 2010):
Sounds very odd to me. I would myself probably observe him a bit more closely, but then as well, do you want to know if he is having an affair? Maybe better just leave him be and forget about it. If you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Hard to say ... texts can be sent to the wrong person.
My uncle was getting texts from a co worker .. saying goodnight honey ... they were meant for her husband, not for my uncle who is her boss.
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Also, if it is an affair, I would stay out. Hopefully you are old enough to understand that some people stay together for other reasons than still being in love, yet they have made this commitment between themselves.
Or, you could just ask .. but be prepared to answer as to why you were checking out their phone.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Not enough evidence to draw that conclusion..Even if he was it's not your place to tell your mother. You would be inserted in the middle of a mess you won't be able to get yourself out of. Divorce is nasty enough. Like everyone else said it could be completely harmless. I suggest you don't go browsing through your father's texts again.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (27 October 2010):
I have a lot of female friends that we say to each other (I love you) but its a friend love. Nothing romantic like you're thinking.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (27 October 2010):
 You should never jump to any conclusions without more facts. Especially when it comes to snooping through somebody's phone. There are many other possibilities for what that text meant. I'd keep your thoughts to yourself on this matter until some additional info comes out in the future.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Hm, unfortunately there's no way to tell. This could be completely innocent! Don't worry your head about it and become overly suspicious. Banking details and an I luv u could point to your father simply helping this woman. Is she friendly with your mother as well?
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